farmerjan
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Yes, congratulations and I think you have already demonstrated your commitment to him by doing the move and all, already. He really needs to look at that a little bit.
is there any other way to read it? Maybe that's not what she meant but it sure is what she said!Bright Raven":3tuh9ydb said:ez14.":3tuh9ydb said:Your seriously saying that having the same last name makes marriage fail :roll:boondocks":3tuh9ydb said:Besides, your logic is faulty: you want to attribute successful families to the practice of having the same name; but if those marriages fail, you want to blame other issues. Can't have it both ways...
I don't read it that way; that she is saying the same last name is the cause of marriage failure. But she can explain it for you.
hurleyjd said:Good chance they either married and worked it out or moved on. On the subject of name changing I hate it when a person decides to legally change his name to a respectful family in the area. Also the changing of the woman's last name to the mans means the mans name will be passed on through the ages with sons and such but the woman's name and history can be lost for ever. Just remember good genetics comes from both sides.
TennesseeTuxedo said:If I'm paying the bills they're wearing my brand.
sstterry said:TennesseeTuxedo said:If I'm paying the bills they're wearing my brand.
Freeze Brand or Hot Brand??
Brute 23 said:The part that would be odd to me is if she keeps her maiden name, when they have kids, what will the kids name be? Usually they will put the dads name. Would a mom purposely keep her name knowing her kids would get their dad's name?
Bigfoot said:Brute 23 said:The part that would be odd to me is if she keeps her maiden name, when they have kids, what will the kids name be? Usually they will put the dads name. Would a mom purposely keep her name knowing her kids would get their dad's name?
Most here would do a hyphenated name for the kids. Then, to me that just gets more confusing down the road. A hyphenated person marries a hyphenated that also doesn't want to change, and now the poor kid has 4 last names.
Duramaxgirl said:I'm just a SAHM but I was grateful to change my name to my husband's. I wear being his wife with pride! He's a super cool guy and has joined me with my cow obsession. To each there own but when I see someone unwilling to change their name to his I view that as "keeping their options open" or being embarrassed by being his girl. Obviously this is just my opinion and I'm old school I guess.
milkmaid said:Hmmm.... well that got some opinions. lol.
I do appreciate y'all's input. Seriously. Bit more background... I do honestly want opinions on the topic; believe me, I don't come out of months/years of minimal posting to ask a personal question on a forum if I just want validation. LOL. Yup, it'd be nice if everyone thought that the name change question was a minor issue and took my perspective, but if I wanted that I'd go to my veterinary Facebook groups where that is the consensus. The Future Mr MM and I discussed the topic, not a 10/10 argument but he has 9/10 or 10/10 feelings about us not having the same last name. We concluded that maybe neither of us was entirely educated on the topic from the other person's perspective, so he said he'd ask around and I said I'd ask around. I figured the CT forum was the most likely source to have similar views to my new rural community.
I was originally thinking I'd show the future Mr MM the responses; after reading through some of them I'm not so sure now. lol. I do appreciate y'all not beating around the bush, regardless of whether I agree with you or not.
Also... commitment level...judge for yourselves. I packed up and moved last week. Moved 640 miles, gave up a job I loved, good friends in the area, in a nice location, with my nice roomy house/yard/fenced backyard for the dogs... for a tiny 110 year old house in town with a poor foundation (e.g. stuff doesn't consistently stay on flat surfaces), no yard, no fences, got a part time job at a vet clinic for a significant pay cut (but so far is going good), in a state I never would have moved to if it wasn't for the future Mr MM living here. Good guys are hard to find; I kinda believe a girl should make every effort to keep one when she finds him.