greybeard":i9vxk5p6 said:
build relationships....I'll be blunt. I just don't give a crap what anyone but my wife thinks of me. I don't care one bit if I'm liked, disliked or otherwise. I try hard not to offend people, but if they take offense, well, that's on them.
Thanks for sharing. That certainly helps clarify. If I didn't have relationships I wanted to cultivate and people I wanted to spend time with, and things that interested me besides work, that would certainly be a block of time for doing other things. I guess if you don't care what people think of you, you probably aren't involved in many social activities, so I guess that is a block of time you can do something else, and I guess work fills that for you. Then M-5 doesn't seem to care that some feel he is a butt, so I guess the same may apply with him.
I don't mean any of those comments in a smart-butt way, I'm just acknowledging what was written and truly saying that it helps clarify for me. Honestly, I can relate to a point. I'm an introvert personality, and I'm not crazy about a lot of people either, but I do have a few people close to me that I really want to spend time with, and I like them so much that I often do what they want to do while we spend time together; it's not all centered around a work chore. I consider cultivating those relationships just as important as cultivating the back forty.
I often say I could do anything if I had to. If I were living back during the depression, I'm sure my views and actions would be much different than today. As long as I have a choice, however, I like a little variety in life. I would get tired of the same old thing all the time. If the only thing I ever did was wake up and go be around cows from sunup to sundown, that would get monotonous if the cycle was never broken. I feel satisfaction with the fact that I have kept my grandfather's farm in good shape. I also feel satisfaction in the fact that I have helped kids over the years have a better life. I also feel satisfaction in the fact that my children seem to be logical people and seem to be moving in the right direction in life, and I'm glad I spent time with them doing some fun things they wanted to do when they were growing up and it didn't all center around a chore. I also sing in a local band; I feel satisfaction that I can just have some good old fashioned fun like that from time to time.
greybeard":i9vxk5p6 said:
Of course they like it...it gets them out of doing things.
I love my sisters dearly, but I don't always like them. It's not just me they want to sit around and malinger with. There's a time for play and a time for everything else and if they (and their husbands) would spend less time jawin and more time actually doing something constructive, I wouldn't have be over there doing their work.
Like I wrote, I didn't know the whole story, but I can certainly see where that would be frustrating. Having to do work for them that they could do if they would just get up and do it would not be fun. I get that.