john250
Well-known member
OK, here goes. My take on this is different.
Don't most women have emotional attachments to men who aren't relatives? The women I know have such attachments. Maybe they are exceptions, but I think they are the majority.
I have attachments to a number of women, gals I would do most anything to help them out in a bind, and they just have to accept each other. This is not a harem, just neighbors and friends. A spouse would have to accept all of them. I wouldn't talk much to a spouse or significant other about these women, because no woman wants to spend time with a man talking about other women.
Someone did a study (your tax dollars at work) and concluded that men are most fearful that their woman is actually physically cheating. Women, on the other hand, are most fearful that he has an emotional attachment to another woman. In other words, one night with a prostitute would not trouble a woman as much as a platonic friendship with her best friend.
I find most of the women I've approached since my divorce are freaked by the fact I get along with the ex. We had a child to raise, and after the initial anger neither of us saw any sense in fighting. We aren't ever getting back together--and she would tell you the same--but we have civil talk about important things and I respect her.
I summation, I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill unless you find airline tickets on the Visa or some such evidence that he really intends to interview this other woman.
Don't most women have emotional attachments to men who aren't relatives? The women I know have such attachments. Maybe they are exceptions, but I think they are the majority.
I have attachments to a number of women, gals I would do most anything to help them out in a bind, and they just have to accept each other. This is not a harem, just neighbors and friends. A spouse would have to accept all of them. I wouldn't talk much to a spouse or significant other about these women, because no woman wants to spend time with a man talking about other women.
Someone did a study (your tax dollars at work) and concluded that men are most fearful that their woman is actually physically cheating. Women, on the other hand, are most fearful that he has an emotional attachment to another woman. In other words, one night with a prostitute would not trouble a woman as much as a platonic friendship with her best friend.
I find most of the women I've approached since my divorce are freaked by the fact I get along with the ex. We had a child to raise, and after the initial anger neither of us saw any sense in fighting. We aren't ever getting back together--and she would tell you the same--but we have civil talk about important things and I respect her.
I summation, I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill unless you find airline tickets on the Visa or some such evidence that he really intends to interview this other woman.