HDRider
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Congratulations. I am not sure he knows how lucky he is.
How big of a disagreements is this, a 1 or 2, or is this an 8 or 9?
How big of a disagreements is this, a 1 or 2, or is this an 8 or 9?
milkmaid":2zns3jet said:Mountains of paperwork, everyone knows me by the current last name, reputation with the current last name, etc. Compounding this is the fact that MM's first name starts with a Cla... and future Mr. MM's last name starts with a Kla... put together sounds like a train or tongue twister or something. Not a fan of the combination.
milkmaid":2zns3jet said:It's fairly common among all my female Dr friends and acquaintances to be Dr maiden name at work
milkmaid":2zns3jet said:Enter the future Mr. MM's opinion. He feels it signifies not wanting to be part of "us"
HDRider":2r5lebez said:How big of a disagreements is this, a 1 or 2, or is this an 8 or 9?
Aaron":2r5lebez said:Also know that the real traditional types look down upon those who don't change their name. Not real sure when a name took the place of a ring.
Rafter S":2r5lebez said:Right or wrong, many people believe that a woman that won't take her husband's name wants to "wear the pants in the family", for lack of a better way to explain it. I'd say it's not so much you showing a lack of respect as other people possibly having less respect for him. Especially in a traditional, rural setting, like you're moving to. I'd hope you don't want that.
milkmaid":3ec8lh9b said:Rafter S":3ec8lh9b said:Right or wrong, many people believe that a woman that won't take her husband's name wants to "wear the pants in the family", for lack of a better way to explain it. I'd say it's not so much you showing a lack of respect as other people possibly having less respect for him. Especially in a traditional, rural setting, like you're moving to. I'd hope you don't want that.
No, wouldn't want that. I think what you said is a lot of it... I've never known him to care about anyone else's opinion, but it may be that he doesn't care whether people like him or not as long as they respect him. He's worked hard for the reputation he has and maybe the thought of it being affected by this scares him?
He's a really good man y'all. MM wouldn't settle for anything less. He just apparently has a pretty traditional view of the way this should work.
midTN_Brangusman":1fw2e57g said:I guess I am old school, but I would not want a different last name as my children. I also would not worry about your cliental, word passes pretty quick, I do not think it would affect your practice. Congratulations!
wlamarparmer":juohrxv7 said:MM,
Congratulations !!! Not sure there is right or wrong answer to Your question. Most my female
colleagues that I know practice under the name they were awarded DVM and licensed under, and
use married name socially. A few use the hyphenated version socially, as ****** Smith-Jones. Marriage
is lots give and take, this may be y'all first big compromise. A few I know work and advertise (sign and correspondence)
under married name , leave licensing in original name.
W Lamar Parmer, DVM
Ya mean like HRC and Ruth Bader Ginsburg did?dun":31fb5e7e said:Asked my wife about this. Keep in mind that she's older so may have a different opinion. She said why not hyphenate it and when the kids come alng drop the hyphen part.
Jogeephus":10ukdfas said:Congratulations!
I'm old school I guess but if you have children, what will their last names be?
Brute 23":10ukdfas said:It sounds like you may be possibly more concerned with what you have built in your career than what you are about to build with your husband.