I was trying at first to understand why he talked to her at all. Then you mentioned the child they had together. The child is speaking lovingly about you and it is eating her up.
Your husband needs to stay on friendly terms only because of the son. But needs to cut the cord on the cattle issue. Surely he is laughing and making jokes about what she says when he tells you these things.
I would say that your husband needs to discourage the conversations.
When she starts telling him what to do, he just needs to say
"My darling wife already has that figured out or she did that a month ago."
By the way, we have banded calves much older than that. They acted like they never felt it, never went off of feed and continued to gain weight.
Chuckie
Your husband needs to stay on friendly terms only because of the son. But needs to cut the cord on the cattle issue. Surely he is laughing and making jokes about what she says when he tells you these things.
I would say that your husband needs to discourage the conversations.
When she starts telling him what to do, he just needs to say
"My darling wife already has that figured out or she did that a month ago."
By the way, we have banded calves much older than that. They acted like they never felt it, never went off of feed and continued to gain weight.
Chuckie