Chuckie":1wshm9ts said:
:lol2: :clap: :lol2:
You know we love you Ron, even though love is only a four letter key word.
I love you too, Chuckie.
A poor job of communication. I will try again.
My point is that the drama is not stressful. It is totally within the control of the USER to decide how they want to be affected by the drama. I base that on the fact that the relationship on a forum is not PHYSICAL. You cannot pick up a 2x4 and hit me between the eyes. You can type letters into words, put those words into sentences, put those sentences into paragraphs and send them to the server.
Then I have to access the server, willingly and knowingly. Then I have to willingly and knowingly find your transmission and read it. They cannot reach out and harm you. For someone to do emotional harm, YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO DO IT TO YOURSELF. Emotional harm occurs in YOUR brain. Not THEIRS. Their words are no more than pebbles in a stream if that is how you want to percieve them.
Example: Inyati is the dumbest dam IDIOT that ever sucked an egg. He frequently sucks eggs and hides the shells!
OK. If I AM an IDIOT, then I have to look at that and say, "The accusor is correct. I asspire to accept what I am. The accuror did not harm me. So why do I care."
OK. If I am NOT an IDIOT, then the accusor is incorrect and is a dam fool for making incorrect accusations. So why do I care.
The fundamental concept is this: What you do with information occurs in YOUR brain. If a person does not do you physical harm, they are benign. This is not just true on a forum. It can be true in the physical presents of another person. Many times have I stood eye to eye with another man when serving him a paper he did not want. I have been called a "shyt eating dog" but as long as he did not lay a hand on me, I always walked away with a smile on my face.