How long for sibling visits?

[GMN]

How often do you see your siblings? I got to thinking the other day that I have not seen 2 of mine in almost 9 years, with hte farm and all, just hard to take time off to visit, especially since they live in another state, and do not put out any effort to stay in contact with me, although I do with them via holiday cards, emails and Christmas.

Gail

 

[john250]

Sis and I don't get along the best, but we have frequent short visits. Maybe 15-20 times a year. Half day or less. We smile, at least.

 

[MistyMorning]

My sisters are my best friends. They can stay as long as they want to!

 

[Bama]

I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. We see each other every Sunday. Unless the rare occasion someone is out of town or something.

 

[Caustic Burno]

I have a philosophy to not overfeed horses or guest the horse will founder and the guest won't leave.
Love Sis to death everytime I see her I ask her to come almost home with me.

 

[warpaint]

See mine once a year at Thanksgiving whether I want to or not.

Usually after 10 or 15 minutes, we're at each others throats.

 

[Jogeephus]

I see my brother once or twice a year. We get along fine its just he and I are both busy and have our own responsibities and such. Lost both my sisters so I won't be seeing them for some time but it will be some reunion I'm sure.

 

[hillsdown]

My big sis ( my only sister) and I were best friends we roomed together and then we even went on first dates with our now husbands the same night. They married a year later than us.
But things change, she got kind of high and mighty on the money thing as soon as her husband started to do OK for themselves. Which I though was great for them and I was very happy that things were going well.
When you hear the "my husband is so much better than yours" everyday :roll: ; you decide it might be best not to talk to that person because they p,,,,,,,,, you off too much for it to be worth it .

I still love her and talk every week but sometimes it is an effort because I still want to put my foot up her @ss at times but for the sake of her kids and my parents I make the effort.

All I can say is we have never declared bankruptcy ,I know where my husband is and trust him completely and I am never surprised by a credit card bill for a couple of thousand dollars from Internet porn..... 8) I think that means a little more than how much we can buy. ;-)

 

[VanC]

Have a younger brother that I talk to at least once a week and see 2 or 3 times a year. We get along fine, just live pretty far apart. Lost my older brother a little over 9 years ago. Sure do miss him.

 

[cfpinz]

Don't have any and the wife doesn't either. Works out pretty well.

 

[angie1]

My sisters are my best friends. I would slay dragons for them. I talk to them almost everyday and see them almost every week. My brother is the most decent person I have ever met. I'd slay his dragon, but he kinda likes her, so I keep my mouth shut. They are welcome here all the time. Usually just a game of cards and supper, but they know the door is always open :nod:

 

[Aaron]

I see my oldest sister and brother about once every 2-3 months. I get along with them and respect them, and treasure our visits which last hours to days to weeks. My other two younger sisters are seen as rarely as possible (I start counting the minutes as soon as I see them) as they are witches who have poked their noses into the future of the farm in the past, which they know has been my goal of taking over since day 1....just because they think they might be able to get a buck out of it. I have also caught them talking about abandoning our parents financially if they were to ever hit hard times in their retirement. I lost all respect for both of them that day. Both have good paying jobs as a result of university which Ma and Pa paid for, so I think they owe the parents for everything...I know I do.

 

[dun]

Fish and relative begin to stink after 2 days.
Haven;t seen my sister since 1981. Saw my brother last year for the first time since 85, after an hour we had gotten all caught up. He wanted to get together again this year. I figured if it only took an hour to cover that many years just shaking hands would get us caught up for only 1 year.

 

[Lammie]

My siblings live forty miles from me and I do good to see them once a year, usually at Christmas. The only time we talk on the phone is to exchange information about our parents. It's a shame. We were close growing up. I had an alcoholic brother that really killed the family get togethers. It just changed everything, sad to say. I didn't even see them on Christmas this year because I had it here at my home and neither of them could be bothered to show up.

 

[backhoeboogie]

When Mom was in Hospice back in '04, my sweetheart sis out of Baton Rounge came and stayed with us for weeks at a time. No problem. It also gave me a break from sitting with mom constantly. My wife was glad to have my sis (this one) stay with us as was I. Problem was it seemed to bother my sis. Must have been me :shock:

When she comes to town, she always asks to stay with us versus little brother or other sis that both live in the proximity. Makes me feel better about it.

 

[GMN]

My siblings live forty miles from me and I do good to see them once a year, usually at Christmas. The only time we talk on the phone is to exchange information about our parents. It's a shame. We were close growing up. I had an alcoholic brother that really killed the family get togethers. It just changed everything, sad to say. I didn't even see them on Christmas this year because I had it here at my home and neither of them could be bothered to show up.

I do think there are things that happen in a family that can cause siblings to drift apart. In my case it started after my parents died, we were all so young, and everyone just kind of went their own way, which now I think maybe that isn't too abnormal. I would like to see my 2 eldest sibling in the near future, but we don't have much in common, and they think I'm off my rocker for farming, and I think they are a bit snobbish. Now my younger brother does stay in contact, and does come to visit, and although we don't have much in common I do like to see him and catch up.

Gail

 

[cattleluvr18]

i have a younger sister. get to see her everyday. :roll:

we could not be more opposite.

 

[BB_Agron]

I'm the oldest of seven, have three brother and three sisters. They all live within 10 miles from my parents. I live the farthest (about 25 miles). During the spring and summer, probably see most of the family two to three times a month. I guess short visits keep everyone on good terms. No major family problems (so far).

 

[Lammie]

I envy families that stay close. I hope that no one here has to go through what we went through before my brother died. He just got so embarrassing I stopped visiting because I didn't want my son to be exposed to him. I think everyone understood, but then, once he was gone, it was hard to go back to getting together. I miss it. My husband is close to his family, and I am learning to be close to them, too. It wasn't automatic, though, because you learn to distance yourself and it kinda becomes habit. We all had a nice family vacation this last summer, though, Steve's family and me and my son. I would like to do it again this summer. I think my younger son needs to experience that.

Me, I can stay isolated forever and it would not bother me. I say that now, but I am sure I won't always feel that way.

 

[mnmtranching]

I'm in the middle of 5, two older brothers and a younger sister and brother. My oldest brother and my youngest brother and I are good friends and we get together often, the other two siblings are off in another world.