MO_cows
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Sounds like you are God's gift to those kids right now. Just focus on them and they will put joy back in your heart.
I'm fully convinced god does not give us more than we can handle.Dave":z9oqtvli said:There is no telling who will fall victim to drugs. My youngest son, who is technically a step son, was abandoned twice by his mother. When she ran off and left me there was a rather messy divorce going on. My son who was in his Jr year of high school sort of laid low at the homes of two friends. Both homes were two parent educated successful households. I considered them a good place for him to be at that time. Fast forward 12 years. My son has a great wife, a baby on the way, a good job and his own home. Those two friends from good families........ one died of an over dose about two years ago and the other is a full out junkie. Who would have guessed that they would fall and my son would come through it clean?
Boogie you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.
wv mud river":2o1kirld said:God bless your family. praying for you. this could happen to any family.I have seen it.alot of these people come from good families.maybe jail time is what it will take to save her life.take care of yourself and the boys.look for a good sunday school class for the boys. it will help.a church family is good to have in tough times .Gods word, a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.
backhoeboogie":1ft3nu5s said:Her "friends" bailed her out of jail. She came to town. The boys got to see her and were thrilled.
The cops kept her phone. Probably lots of numbers and evidence in it.
My wife (we're still married) went down and renewed her phone (that's in my name) and committed me to another two years of paying her bill. This let her get a "free" phone to give the daughter. No one asked me anything. I asked the wife why and she went to pieces. Tears flowing for hours. Daughter calls me up wanting to know why I did not want her having a phone. She can go buy a phone and get her own plan. She's 27.
Then the wife takes her down to get her driver's license again, insures her, and sends her off in an old Park Avenue we had.
I cannot win. I aint worth a flip at tough love but I am at a total loss with everyone else in the family being on a different team. The wife is delicate as is. Breathing issues and all kinds of anxiety over this. I care about her and care deeply. I just can't deal with all of this over and over and over. I am sick to death of being stepped on by both of them.
TennesseeTuxedo":104xucj8 said:As much as we men don't like to admit it Backhoe, you need a support team around you. Find an Al-Anon group in your area and start going to their meetings. Your wife needs to go as well if she will.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I wish you the best my friend.
Caustic Burno":1nqk88z1 said:THe addict usually ends up destroying the family.
TennesseeTuxedo":3bjo0r8h said:As much as we men don't like to admit it Backhoe, you need a support team around you. Find an Al-Anon group in your area and start going to their meetings. Your wife needs to go as well if she will.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I wish you the best my friend.
hooknline":r42ngnzz said:TennesseeTuxedo":r42ngnzz said:As much as we men don't like to admit it Backhoe, you need a support team around you. Find an Al-Anon group in your area and start going to their meetings. Your wife needs to go as well if she will.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I wish you the best my friend.
BHB you got a support group of sorts right here.
You can pm me or call me anytime if you want
backhoeboogie":1g1u8zy4 said:Her "friends" bailed her out of jail. She came to town. The boys got to see her and were thrilled.
The cops kept her phone. Probably lots of numbers and evidence in it.
My wife (we're still married) went down and renewed her phone (that's in my name) and committed me to another two years of paying her bill. This let her get a "free" phone to give the daughter. No one asked me anything. I asked the wife why and she went to pieces. Tears flowing for hours. Daughter calls me up wanting to know why I did not want her having a phone. She can go buy a phone and get her own plan. She's 27.
Then the wife takes her down to get her driver's license again, insures her, and sends her off in an old Park Avenue we had.
I aint worth a flip at tough love but I am at a total loss with everyone else in the family being on a different team.
I cannot win. The wife is delicate as is. Breathing issues and all kinds of anxiety over this. I care about her and care deeply. I just can't deal with all of this over and over and over. I am sick to death of being stepped on by both of them.