I'll have to differ with you on that... When you lose 5th gear entirely, that's from the nut backing off, as the gear it holds slides off the splines... DO NOT weld on the shaft, as you will cause a weak spot in it from the heat, and it'll snap there... I've seen it... There is a better nut with a setscrew that fixes it, it's about $40 or so, and you can still remove it when you need it... I use permanent strength locktite on it as well, and clean everything with brake cleaner.
I think it pops out under deceleration/exhaust brake partly due to end play in the countershaft, where the 5th gear synchros are, and because the transmission's gears are cut so that they push against the bearing under power, under deceleration, you're pulling on it, and you end up with some slop there, and with the vibration, it works its way out.
I've had the transmission out 5 times in about 50,000 miles, The first time for the 5th gear nut, once for the clutch when it seriously disintegrated (the hub rivets sheared off), once more when the snap ring that holds the 5th gear synchros popped off (DO NOT SHIFT HARD INTO 5th!! or any gear for that matter), Once more for when I stripped the teeth off 5th gear, and the last time for when I snapped the input shaft... Needless to say, I'm getting pretty darned good at it!
I use the engine brake all the time as well, but don't 'leave it on', it's on a switch on the shifter, as well as a switch on the accelerator pedal, you need to have your foot off the gas and the shifter switch on for it to engage.
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