I suppose I'm different, but I never tried to push the farming thing on any of my daughter's boyfriends; I've seen that actually cause resentment in some families after their kids got married. If they are farmers themselves or interested in the process, that's one thing, but I have no hopes or dreams that my kid's spouses will be into cattle and outdoors. My daughter is in college, and her boyfriend is majoring in accounting; neither have any dreams of being farmers, and that is fine with me.
I knew an older couple once who had 7 kids. Six were into farming, but one daughter went to college and married a college man as well. They had office jobs and lived in town. Farming didn't interest either of them. The parents, however, believed they should spend a lot of time working on their farm in their spare time, but they didn't care for it. It actually caused some friction in their family. I can think of other cases too where a farming family thinks that anyone who marries into the family is automatically a farm-hand.
I've also noticed that if someone isn't particularly interested in cattle and such, a couple of doses usually will do them. After that, it starts to become annoying to think that every time you visit the in-laws, you end up on a tractor and fooling with cows. that's fine if they like it, but if not, it becomes a sore spot, and I completely understand.
Personally, I don't see any difference in trying to push farm-life on someone than trying to push any occupation on someone. I am also a teacher, but I don't require her dates help me grade papers, attend education conferences with me, and keep up with school issues so we can "talk education." I think this same attitude applies to most jobs.
