hooknline":270qw57d said:
I've got a brother that went to some hoity toity art school in detroit. He came back with so much attitude that he won't talk to over half his direct family, including our parents. He's was always a little stand offish, but I can't help but wonder who he's gonna ask for help when the time comes..and everyone has those periods in their lifetime.
I am sorry I brought my personal business to this board. My son was allways a good kid. Very adventuresom but did't have sound judgement. He had graduated from high school and looking into college. He wanted to go to school in Colorado so he could party with the snow birds. It was clear to us that his mind was not on getting an education. So... He brings this young lady to our home{she was a real cutie, well manered, clean and neat]. She was having trouble with her parents and needed shelter till her trouble passed. We said fine with two conditions.1] we have to speak with her parents, let them know she is welcome and safe and where she is. 2] This is our home and you are not the only child under this roof. If you're looking for a place to shack up, It's not going to be here. Found out her father was a MD and was moving to Austin, Texas. Aparently she did'nt want to go. Anyway the two of them left. They moved into an apartment with another girl. The MD moved and left her behind, she was 19 yo. Our son would no longer come to our house to visit. They married the next year and moved to Austin, Texas at the MD's expense. Tom got his student loans and went to school {wanted to be a MD like his father in law.] Later that year our other son was killed in the military. We burried Danny in Alabama, near his Grandparents home. I tell folks I lost both my sons, one married and the other died. Anyway Tom partied his way through college while his wife worked as a legal secretary. She supported him totally. The week before his finals she told him she wanted a divorce, and she moved in with "Sancho". Tom called us in Alabama, said he was broke and could'nt pay his rent and finals were next week. We sent him a check to cover every thing. He said after finals he was comming to Alabama, where we were. {Knowing that I had just had a major surgery and was totally dependent on Kathy.] I was diagnosed with Cancer and given two years to live at very best. Tom never showed up. I finally called him on his cell phone, he answered and said he was sleeping in his pickup in western Arizona and was on his way to Nevada. About six months later he calls and wants to borrow money, we sent it. Months later he calls and wants to bring his fiamce' to meet us. He shows up with her. We liked her, she was a country girl. They stayed three days, paid me back the last loan and left. We have not seen them sence. I herd from one of his friends that they married, have two children [have never sent a picture] and has'nt talked to us in five years. He is now a Fireman and lives in Klammath Falls, Oregon. Whats a Parent to do?