JHH
Well-known member
I looked up divorce on here because my wife has given up. After fighting for several days and no sleep and cant eat I am sitting here looking for answer's. Then It hit me. I have so caught up in everthing I have competly shut her out. She has been going to a friends house and has been staying longer and longer. (female friend) I see them and I dont care for her friend. She lives off of the system as I call it and I just keep shking my head and go about my day. Any way this friend is divorced and her ex husband is over there all the time. I question this and she says he is just here with his ex for his kids. ( female friend also has a boy friend there all the time) I can see the writing on the wall and get mad. I ask her what is so important over there. She says nothing just has fun over there. ( kids have been with her the whole time so I think and my 15 yr old also thinks nothing is going on). Like I said after sitting up and cant eat, sleep I came to the conclusion that I have been the biggest cause of all this. I dont do anything with her any more. Money has been tight so we dont go out any more. I have been putting off my family to work and make that extra buck to help pay bills. I am now thinking I should have been taking some time with my wife. How it got this way is very clear now, but was clear as mud 4 days ago. I got caught up in the daily life and she got caught up in going to neighbors with her ex husband. I really dont think anything has happened and she swears they havent but she refuse's to work things out after 16 years and two kids. i am trying to talk with her today and tell her how I feel and see. I dont know that I could handle letting her go over there with them again and trust her after I have found this out. Trust is hard when you get told this kind of thing.
While I know you guys are not councilers I just dont know how I let it go so wrong.
Just posted here because this gets most traffic
While I know you guys are not councilers I just dont know how I let it go so wrong.
Just posted here because this gets most traffic