Wisteria Farms
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I've waited and waited and waited...
Daughter won't move on from boyfriend...and its driving me crazy.
Daughter won't move on from boyfriend...and its driving me crazy.
angie2":xl7ee5cl said:Gosh, that is hard. How old are they?
Hippie Rancher":mmq0cuok said:Bottom line is you haven't waited long enough. Not much you can do. Speaking not as parent of teens (am one) but as the dumb @ss girl with the loser boyfriends. She WILL eventually figure it out, but there is NOTHING you can do but be there.
angie2":9f48634k said:I sit here looking at this. I don't know what to tell you, except that you are not alone :roll:
angie2":186c8188 said:Well, while you are waiting ~
Is he good/kind to her? Does he let her see girlfriends and go out with them? You are right about him just being a habit. And Hippie is right in that it will eventually end......
Hippie Rancher":1ccwb903 said:eh, High School is so unimportant in the scheme of an adult life (or should be), don't worry if she doesn't have a fantasy High School career. I would be more concerned about pregnancy or early marriage issues and you know what? Even that isn't the end of life. I do know any parental pressure just makes it worse. Don't know how to advise not to worry, though. Sorry. It's as hard to watch them stumble as young adults as it was when they were toddlers, but they still have to do it.
Hippie Rancher":1qaa8s4v said:I wonder does she have any other adults in her life that are not authority figures. Parents can "advise" about stupid moves and the future consequences until they are blue, when sometimes another adult that treats them as an inteligent human being rather than a wayward child can get through. Or along the same vein an adult who has gone through it and can be an example of sorts.
I know - easy to advise from the keyboard, hard to do the day to day stuff. Have faith you have done a good job and she will come around. Or you all will deal with whatever happens. It could always be worse, huh?