I don't know exactly where you are cowgirl, and location makes a difference.
I expect my cows to be able to be able to handle a calf that is 7-9% of her body weight. That puts us with cows that can easily handle a 100lb calf. So far this year our biggest calf was 113 lbs, she had him by herself. Heifers should be able to handle about the same thing, our heifers will run about 1100 lbs right now, so I see no reason that they can't handle a 80-90 lb calf. Bigger than that and I expect to help a few of them.
I find that most people that don't weigh their calves really have no idea what they weigh. I mean, if you don't ever weigh them how can you expect to be accurate at guessing weights, you have no reference point as to what an 80 lb calf looks like. Heck, we weigh every calf and there are lots of times when we are out by 10 lbs or more on what they weigh. I trust my scale, it may not be legal, but we try to check it every now and then with something we know the weight of.
Anyways, a good target to hit is 7-8% of the animals body weight. So for 1300 lb cows 91-100 lbs. For 800 lb heifers 56-64 lbs and for 1100 lb heifer like ours 77-88 lbs (which would pretty much be my target of 80-90 lbs)
If you run into too many LUTTCS calves, then perhaps your real problem isn't the calf, but the udder of the cow.... That is a problem, that we rarely deal with around here, even on the couple of cows that have, shall we say, larger than average udders. We also don't usually have an issue with slow calves (due to BW) you need to use easy calving bulls, they make those long lean calves that are born easy even if they weigh 110+ lbs. Blocky calves don't come out easy regardless of size.