chrisy":2laphh7h said:
aplusmnt":2laphh7h said:
On a light note, that is why I start out when my kids are young pointing out and making fun of those freaks with piercings and multiple tattoos. Got to let them know they are circus freaks not upstanding people. I doubt a freaky teen has ever walked withing sight of me in the last 15 years that I did not point them out and talk to my kids about them. I got my children thinking those types are the boogyman and they will sneak in there rooms and get them at night if they talk to them.
On a more serious note, this might not work, but I kind of believe dating is an activity for finding a husband and wife, my kids do not and will not date at a young age. If they want to have a boyfriend at 14, 15, 16, 17, they are going to have to sneak around and do it like it was Drugs or Alcohol because I will not have it. Kids date to young these days!! Mine might sneak just like they might do drugs one day, but they better be very good at sneaking because I know were my kids are biggest part of 24/7.
thats easy when your kids are young, but things change when they get bigger, they develop a mind of their own and most often use it, not always to the best, but OH you have these pleasures to come enjoy them while they are small and hang on your every word, as when they hit high school, and peer pressure hits hard they met these people and change their minds, some times with the best will in the world it changes. you'll see. hope it does work out how you want, but after being a teenager yourself you should know don't bank on it.
Its all a crap shoot and believe you me I have my fingers crossed! But I have a Junior in High School at the moment and so far it has paid off. He has a cousin that is a grunge, Punk rocker, wears all the black finger nails etc.....I actually have to get on to my son because he wont even be civilized to his own cousin because he despises the things he does and stands for. He thinks his own cousin is the boogyman and if he talks to him he will kill him. :lol: I know I am probably cursing myself, he will probably tell me today I am going to be a grandpa :lol:
But I have lots of Nieces and Nephews that date early, allowed to be lazy and no responsibility and EVERY one is having problems that I do not have. The nephew mentioned above has long hair, his mom says it is not right to tell him how to cut it. My kids all have short hair, one year my older son wanted longer hair because the girls all liked one of his friends with bushy curly hair. My answer was nope, get your but to the barber, or get a dress on. Now short hair is his choice, he just needed to be molded into the proper way to think. That is what we do as parents. Mold their thinking process.
If we let them date when they are 13, 14, 15, 16 years old we are molding there thinking in a way wrong direction. Kind of like giving them a Gun to play with before you teach them how to use it.