Menopause

[504RP]

I bet this is a first for the cattle forum !!! But I have to ask. Are there any men here who's wife has gone or is going through menopause ?

I know this has to be probably one of the strangest threads ever posted but, I think alot of people, man or woman can understand why i am asking about it.

Someone who has never been involved in the matter would probably think it is probably a strange if not a stupid thing to mention on a cattle forum. If you feel that way just keep in mind that it is a man who posted the thread.

Beleave me it is no laughing matter for the poor woman going through it. And even though the woman's husband isn't experiencing it physically like she is. I am learning it is a very emotional experience for that woman's husband also.

I think alot of men who's wifes are going through menopause will know what i am talking about

 

[Chevy]

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[Bigfoot]

if my wife went through it already, she never mentioned it. She's 50.

 

[TCRanch]

Don't take it personally if she used to cuddle at night and suddenly kicks the ever lovin' snot outta you because you're infringing on her side of the bed - the only place that's remotely cool.

Hot flashes? You betcha. But over in a year, no meds. Weight gain? Can happen, but I lost weight. Moody? Well, it is calving season.

@504RP, I applaud you! For recognizing what she's going through and seeking validation. I know it's hard when venom spews for no apparent reason. But take solace in the "light at the end of the tunnel". It will end. And she'll be forever grateful for your support. Good luck! Seriously - good luck!!!

 

[TennesseeTuxedo]

I've been getting booted off her side of the bed for 34 years. Shouldn't she be over it by now?

 

[504RP]

if my wife went through it already, she never mentioned it. She's 50.

My wife will be 51 in july. I by no means an expert on it at all. I might be wrong but i think i read 51 is kind of the average age for some women to begin menopause. I have read that some women although rarely can go throgh it in their 20's.

But it can be a very unpleasant experience for both men and women. Can be hard on a marriage, even to the point of divorce.

It is a complicated matter from what i have read about it. Beleave me it is not a topic that i enjoy reading about but rather a way to find out why someone who you care about is going through what they are going through and why it changes their disposition from like night and day.

And it is something that gradually begins without much notice for a husband and only worsens as time passes. From what i have read it on average it can take 10 years to cycle, 20 years in some cases.

Sometimes it can result in divorce even in what was a fairy tail happy marriage.

 

[Named'em Tamed'em]

It was the worst time of our 39 year relationship, glad I'm not a quiter 'cause I'd been gone.

Things are fine now.

 

[504RP]

I've been getting booted off her side of the bed for 34 years. Shouldn't she be over it by now?

When she leaves taking the farm and everything else that you use to think belonged to the both of you. It might not still be over for her but it might

Don't take it personally if she used to cuddle at night and suddenly kicks the ever lovin' snot outta you because you're infringing on her side of the bed - the only place that's remotely cool.

Hot flashes? You betcha. But over in a year, no meds. Weight gain? Can happen, but I lost weight. Moody? Well, it is calving season.

@504RP, I applaud you! For recognizing what she's going through and seeking validation. I know it's hard when venom spews for no apparent reason. But take solace in the "light at the end of the tunnel". It will end. And she'll be forever grateful for your support. Good luck! Seriously - good luck!!!

be over for you.

When that happens you will think back on thoes 34 years she was booting you out of the bed as the woman you use to know.

Don't take it personally if she used to cuddle at night and suddenly kicks the ever lovin' snot outta you because you're infringing on her side of the bed - the only place that's remotely cool.

Hot flashes? You betcha. But over in a year, no meds. Weight gain? Can happen, but I lost weight. Moody? Well, it is calving season.

@504RP, I applaud you! For recognizing what she's going through and seeking validation. I know it's hard when venom spews for no apparent reason. But take solace in the "light at the end of the tunnel". It will end. And she'll be forever grateful for your support. Good luck! Seriously - good luck!!!

Thanks TCRanch but i didn't happen to take notice and figure out thats what was going on. She had told me in her early stages that her doctor had told her that was what was happening.

I just didn't know nothing about how menopause can affect relationships and even change a person's personality. Or how serious it can be. I don't think anyone does until they are living with it.

 

[Bigfoot]

My wife will be 51 in july. I by no means an expert on it at all. I might be wrong but i think i read 51 is kind of the average age for some women to begin menopause. I have read that some women although rarely can go throgh it in their 20's.

But it can be a very unpleasant experience for both men and women. Can be hard on a marriage, even to the point of divorce.

It is a complicated matter from what i have read about it. Beleave me it is not a topic that i enjoy reading about but rather a way to find out why someone who you care about is going through what they are going through and why it changes their disposition from like night and day.

And it is something that gradually begins without much notice for a husband and only worsens as time passes. From what i have read it on average it can take 10 years to cycle, 20 years in some cases.

Sometimes it can result in divorce even in what was a fairy tail happy marriage.

Mine musta not hit that point yet. Afraid now to ask.

 

[Chevy]

Dang maybe that is what's wrong with me. I've been going through menopause for years. Bahahahahaha. Naw just playing.
Doesn't sound fun is there somewhere to opt out? Same place as getting old maybe?
Hopefully it changes my personality for the better.
Good luck.

 

[504RP]

Mine musta not hit that point yet. Afraid now to ask.

I hope you never experience it. Although if were to guess. There is a good chance you will just because of your wife's age.

Hopefully if she dose she won't have as bad of a time as some women do.

I will say this. It would well be worth anybody's time to read about it. Not just the symptoms and how a woman's menstrual cycle will change.

Instead focus on how it can change the dynamics of life in general for not only the poor woman going through it but everyone, everything involved with her.

It can end careers, cause divorce, it can ruin famlies. It's a serious matter that i would guess most people in general never phantom happening to them. Exspeally people 40 years old and under who are happily married, everything going good for them.

Then it's like being hit by a lightning bolt out of the blue. Although women grow up knowing and hearing from their mothers, grand mothers about the change of life. They themselfs don't know what it will be like, how they themselfs will handle it.

And the man in the relationship can feel like he has been hit between the eyes with a sledgehammer and can not do a thing about it.

It can be pretty serious.

 

[TCRanch]

I've been getting booted off her side of the bed for 34 years. Shouldn't she be over it by now?

You don't snore, do you? That may be a convenient excuse for a swift kick. Guilty, as charged

 

[tom4018]

My wife thought she had been thru it, guess you could say because the routine thing stopped. Then last month it returned with and wouldn't quit.
Ended up in the hospital and getting 2 units of blood. Her hemoglobin was half of normal. Long story short they found a growth on ultrasound over 8cm, waiting on pathology reports right now.

She didn't really change much last year or so but maybe she really didn't go thru it yet, doctor says she hasn't.
Still her mean old self. At least she doesn't rear this forum.

 

[Chevy]

You don't snore, do you? That may be a convenient excuse for a swift kick. Guilty, as charged

True.

 

[Chevy]

My wife thought she had been thru it, guess you could say because the routine thing stopped. Then last month it returned with and wouldn't quit.
Ended up in the hospital and getting 2 units of blood. Her hemoglobin was half of normal. Long story short they found a growth on ultrasound over 8cm, waiting on pathology reports right now.

She didn't really change much last year or so but maybe she really didn't go thru it yet, doctor says she hasn't.
Still her mean old self. At least she doesn't rear this forum.

Lucky ya'll didn't have a surprise and she doesn't read this forum. Glad she is okay that's pretty scary.

 

[TennesseeTuxedo]

You don't snore, do you? That may be a convenient excuse for a swift kick. Guilty, as charged

How should I know, I sleep pretty soundly. lol

 

[TCRanch]

@50

I hope you never experience it. Although if were to guess. There is a good chance you will just because of your wife's age.

Hopefully if she dose she won't have as bad of a time as some women do.

I will say this. It would well be worth anybody's time to read about it. Not just the symptoms and how a woman's menstrual cycle will change.

Instead focus on how it can change the dynamics of life in general for not only the poor woman going through it but everyone, everything involved with her.

It can end careers, cause divorce, it can ruin famlies. It's a serious matter that i would guess most people in general never phantom happening to them. Exspeally people 40 years old and under who are happily married, everything going good for them.

Then it's like being hit by a lightning bolt out of the blue. Although women grow up knowing and hearing from their mothers, grand mothers about the change of life. They themselfs don't know what it will be like, how they themselfs will handle it.

And the man in the relationship can feel like he has been hit between the eyes with a sledgehammer and can not do a thing about it.

It can be pretty serious.

I truly hope your marriage can survive. I had an easy time (and presumably my husband did as well), so I can empathize, but not understand the depth of what you are going through. And your wife.

It can equate to a midlife crisis. But neither excuse outright bad behavior or disrespect. A good relationship with a primary care Dr is the first line of defense, who can then refer to a specialist and prescribe meds, if appropriate. For both of you, if needed.

 

[504RP]

My wife thought she had been thru it, guess you could say because the routine thing stopped. Then last month it returned with and wouldn't quit.
Ended up in the hospital and getting 2 units of blood. Her hemoglobin was half of normal. Long story short they found a growth on ultrasound over 8cm, waiting on pathology reports right now.

She didn't really change much last year or so but maybe she really didn't go thru it yet, doctor says she hasn't.
Still her mean old self. At least she doesn't rear this forum.

What your describing sounds similiar to I guess what you would say were the first things to happen. Which was several years ago. Which was more of a nuisance type of thing which probably not a good way to put it.

But really didn't interfere with her happy pleasant personality. There wasn't alot change if any with her.

Comparing then and now is like Night and day. There is no comparison.

 

[sstterry]

My wife went through it suddenly due to a medical condition. Not fun. But going through Breast Cancer a year later followed by a hormone blocker is even less fun.

But, we live life as God gives it to us.

 

[504RP]

My wife went through it suddenly due to a medical condition. Not fun. But going through Breast Cancer a year later followed by a hormone blocker is even less fun.

But, we live life as God gives it to us.

If you don't mind me asking how old was your wife when she went through it ?