Yeah, I think you hit the nail on the head... and you picked up exactly on what I was saying. Not sure if I'd sell the place and find something that can handle a small but bigger herd in a more efficient manner.. For the 50 arable acres here, there are places that take a lot less work at triple the size.. a little less of the feeling that you're chasing your tailSupa Dexta":28b1g3ki said:So if the place is worth 1-2 mil what are you gonna do with it when they are gone? Its unlikely you'd sell it, You have no children or wife to leave it to. So just wait them out til you're 60? then live whatever last years you have struggling to make it work alone?
Realistically you need 300+ mother cows nowadays to make a living off them, anything less and you're fooling yourself. If you don't plan to sell the place for the money then you're only sticking your head in the sand going thru the day to day motions, tricking yourself you have freedom and are your own boss - which as you state isn't the case.
At 40 and single in 'the real world' many have already made their money and have a goal in sight for retirement, which in your case could have been buying a small farm and breeding what ever bull to whatever cow you wanted.
Don't worry, it doesn't happen overnight... you gotta be persistent and unapologetic if you want him to eventually think you're a dick!dieselbeef":1ncaytdh said:ah man I know. I apologized to him today over a bowl of ice cream, hes 10. he don't think im a dick yet...get what im saying...idk how to tell ya what I mean. its yer dads way..how he is..all he knows kinda thing. he cant really help it maybe? do you remember him being any other way?
sometimes it takes a lot for him to see things...when I left home...my dad changed towards me in a good way when he saw what I was gonna give up to do what I wanted...maybe in talk tell him you have been thinking of doing something else? not sure what but something different.
Caustic Burno":31rfu3tg said:Bigfoot":31rfu3tg said:I feel for you as well. Nothing wrong with venting either. Family policy for us going back many generations has been you get your walking papers at 18. Seemed harsh when I was a kid, but looking back, it serves a purpose. Give you room to fly, and find yourself. Working without a net makes you careful where you put your hands as well.
I see people post on here, and talk to people pretty regular that are dissatisfied with a family operation. Makes me glad I'm by myself.
Never forget I had two options I could pack or dad said he would pack for me.