Ouachita
Well-known member
It seems there are at least 3 topics of conversation in this thread now. I only want to address the original poster;
Hook, I suspect this was unwelcome news. I probably would not have posted about it, if it were me in your flipflops ;-) . But brother I'm here to tell you I've been there, and from reading your post on this thread, you are already miles ahead. I offer my congrats to you and yours because of how y'all are dealing with this mishap. It makes me wonder how many pregnancies were planned vs not???? I know I wasn't planned. I also know 3 of my 6 kids were not planned, but in all those instances we were already married. It could have easily happened to me, but we were just lucky I guess. I can't begin to, and will not even try to imagine the circumstances in your daughters situation. But the fact is, it's happened. There is no undoing. There is only doing what needs to be done and you are doing the father/grandfather part already. I know this is and will continue to be a stressful time. But I can promise you this, and you can take this to the bank; If you give your daughter support, your relationship with her will only improve (not saying it needs improving, just saying that there will come a time that your relationship with her will change and you can't yet imagine the benefit for both of you). I'm not talking about financial support. Sounds like you already have that in proper order. We are talking about about a new life, a child/grandchild, and that will change your life forever. I'm not congratulating you on the mishap, but I am for how you have shared it with us and for how you are dealing with it. YOU will make a great grandpappy. I wish I could share the joy of my own unplanned children, and especially the joy of my grand kids here. There just isn't the bandwidth.
Just today I had to loan my truck to a customer who could not fly out because of weather. I had one of my employees and his pregnant wife drive me home. We came around a corner on the county road and there was a truck parked crossways blocking the road. It was my oldest sons truck. He was taking my Grandson sledding in the new snow. My buddies pregnant wife said "You can block the road for that out here????" I said "Yes, when its my grandson we can block a 4 lane". Of course I was exaggerating, but we stopped for a few minutes and I got on the sled with grandson. Had my buddy pick me up at the bottom of the hill. The pregnant wife was amazed at the entire event, and began think things forward to the day she would be able to do the same thing.
Like I said, not enough bandwidth. You have a lifetime FULL of fun times ahead. There will be plenty of stressful times too, but they pale in comparison. You my friend will do great.
Hook, I suspect this was unwelcome news. I probably would not have posted about it, if it were me in your flipflops ;-) . But brother I'm here to tell you I've been there, and from reading your post on this thread, you are already miles ahead. I offer my congrats to you and yours because of how y'all are dealing with this mishap. It makes me wonder how many pregnancies were planned vs not???? I know I wasn't planned. I also know 3 of my 6 kids were not planned, but in all those instances we were already married. It could have easily happened to me, but we were just lucky I guess. I can't begin to, and will not even try to imagine the circumstances in your daughters situation. But the fact is, it's happened. There is no undoing. There is only doing what needs to be done and you are doing the father/grandfather part already. I know this is and will continue to be a stressful time. But I can promise you this, and you can take this to the bank; If you give your daughter support, your relationship with her will only improve (not saying it needs improving, just saying that there will come a time that your relationship with her will change and you can't yet imagine the benefit for both of you). I'm not talking about financial support. Sounds like you already have that in proper order. We are talking about about a new life, a child/grandchild, and that will change your life forever. I'm not congratulating you on the mishap, but I am for how you have shared it with us and for how you are dealing with it. YOU will make a great grandpappy. I wish I could share the joy of my own unplanned children, and especially the joy of my grand kids here. There just isn't the bandwidth.
Just today I had to loan my truck to a customer who could not fly out because of weather. I had one of my employees and his pregnant wife drive me home. We came around a corner on the county road and there was a truck parked crossways blocking the road. It was my oldest sons truck. He was taking my Grandson sledding in the new snow. My buddies pregnant wife said "You can block the road for that out here????" I said "Yes, when its my grandson we can block a 4 lane". Of course I was exaggerating, but we stopped for a few minutes and I got on the sled with grandson. Had my buddy pick me up at the bottom of the hill. The pregnant wife was amazed at the entire event, and began think things forward to the day she would be able to do the same thing.
Like I said, not enough bandwidth. You have a lifetime FULL of fun times ahead. There will be plenty of stressful times too, but they pale in comparison. You my friend will do great.