Hook":1doyvhzy said:
We had a sit down with the 2 today and talked about their plans and goals and expectations. And ours. It went well and they have a plan of action to start on. They both know it won't be an easy road and it's their responsibility to make it work and not ours, but we will be here for them to help out as we see fit.
Now to have a sit down with his parents. They didn't take the news well yesterday. It's a shocker for them so we'll give them a few days to adjust to it.
This is a tight rope walking act here so be careful.
Lot of difference between help and dependence.
Oldest was about 30 and lost his job in a lay off.
Called and said Dad we are going to need some help.
I ask how much do you have in savings he replied nothing.
I ask then he expected his mother and I to pull money from our savings account to pay his bills
because he and my DIL were too sorry to save.
Again I ask him what I was supposed to do if I needed money go dig up his grandpa and ask him.
I then told him that he and DIL could starve to death as far as I was concerned but I would feed the grand babies. I then told him he could write this in stone, in blood or put your hand on the good book I would be dead before I gave them a penny.
I ask him why I should help someone not willing to help themselves.
Now Granny and I filled the cupboards and pantry with groceries.
He has never been broke since the boy needed his compass reset.
Sometimes help is not helping.
As my Dad told me when I got married son you are rowing your own boat,
it is your job to row the boat not mine.