Trust

[backhoeboogie]

Thanks Ouachita, Rafter and BB - It'll be OK, I'll close the door and walk away :D

And by the way, that saying about the root of all evil is from the Bible. And it's not money, but the love of money.

You are dead on and it's not 'all evil' it's 'all kinds of evil' ;-)

I'll tell you what you can usually trust...your intuition. Mine in this instance said 'draw up a contract Ali' and I ignored it :cry2:

I trust myself least of all.

Never trust a man with a beard :P

You sound like you're in control of your destiny. Good.

 

[Jogeephus]

Do you trust easily or are you considered a cynical ol' fart? Do you have people in your life that you know you can trust? When you really think about it it may come as a shock just how few there are.

I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, try to give each a full deck of cards, but each has to earn my trust and my respect. Its amazing how quickly some will pull cards from their deck for such petty things. Some will pull handfuls of cards from their decks with their lies. Thankfully I know several people I can trust with anything. Their value increases as others decks get slimmer. I even know a handful who would bring their own shovel if I needed to bury something. The latter makes me feel blessed and I would do the same for them. Sadly, this is only a handful of people but I feel blessed nonetheless. To me, I value quality over quantity when it comes to friendship.

Sorry you were betrayed Alison.

 

[LazyARanch]

So sorry to hear this Ali!! :frowns:

After many years of working at the 911 Center, I tend to be very cynical and suspicious of people and their motives.
Sad way to be but I also have to say that people have a way of living DOWN to expectations and rarely living UP to them.
The world around us is NOT improving.....
I still expect a person's word to be bond but that doesn't seem to mean much to a lot of people anymore. If I make a deal, or promise someone, I will follow through. I am apparently a minority in that! :devil2:

 

[Nesikep]

"If you give a fellow $20 and never see him again, it was good investment"

 

[Williamsv]

As a teacher, I probably trusted my students too much. I always gave them the benefit of the doubt. Some disappointed me, but most did not.
My last big disappointment came when the man that has rented my mother's farm for almost thirty years failed to pay the rent last year. He made a good peanut crop and sold hay to two people, me being one of them. I paid him in August for the hay with him promising to put it out for me when the cows needed it. He failed me there. Maybe put some out two or three times. My cousin had to put out the rest. I loaned him money to pay a fuel bill also. He found enough things that he did such as planting my rye to add up to all that money. I had the poorest stand of rye that we have ever had after paying a lot for seeds and fertilizer. I am wondering if he put all of that out.
My mother is 91 years old and this has really hurt her. Yes, we are very disappointed to think that we trusted him when we let him rent the land every year and pay around Christmas. He retired and failed to pay us and the and the people who picked his peanuts and helped him when he got sick.

I see you cannot trust some people. This same man kept telling me about a young man that did some bulldozer work for us and did not use all the pipes. He said he would never pay me. Well, the young man did come and bring me a check for the pipes. He was one of my students. I trusted him and he did not let me down. I never mentioned to him about paying. He did it on his own.

 

[boondocks]

We just got done building a house. We were very (probably too) fair in paying contractors etc as we went along. Despite being somewhat cynical by nature, we ended up trusting people too much. Of the various contractors and subs that we used, I would say we got hosed, to some degree, by at least 70% of them. Some of the work was on a fixed rate, other aspects were time + materials (with an estimate going in). On the ones that were fixed rate, the work quality was sometimes not there. On the time + materials jobs, we got ripped off a lot. For example, our main contractor tried to bill us numerous times for days/hours his crew was not here (he didn't realize I was on the building site those days). Very eye-opening, and still burns me up to think about it. Trying to move on...

After awhile, we just decided to heck with them all, we'd finish it ourselves. So that's what we did. Took us several years but we learned as we went, and actually got a lot of enjoyment out of it. Also, if the door you hung yourself squeaks, it's somehow not as annoying as when you paid someone good $ to hang that squeaky door! :lol2:

 

[plumber_greg]

Boondocks,
I just gotta' believe that you were not hosed by 70% of the people you let work for you. Work on a fixed rate is sometimes hard to judge because there are no paramaters for the work that is to be done. I can plumb a house for 15k and I can plumb the same house for 4k, if you don't have a plumbing schedule of some kind. Being the lowest bidder is VERY easy.
The contractor probably did bill you for days he was not working on the house site. How in the world do you think the material and subs ended up on the job site? It wasn't magic. Someone spent hours and hours figuring materials, getting bids, loading trucks, driving to lumberyards, driving to the jobsite, making payroll checks, I could go on and on with things that are done when not on the jobsite.
A lot of times the guy that hung the squeaky door, doesn't know it squeaks cuz' no one told him. He doesn't live there.
gs

 

[HDRider]

Does not say "in people we trust"