Trust

[alisonb]

Thought I was seasoned enough to know better but my trust has been broken yet again, what a sucker!! One of the people I most respected in my little life has reneged on his word after months of negotiations. Greed being the main reason. The consequences are many...

They say money is the root of all evil. It would seem many are playing the 'game' that Ayn Rand wrote about...bugger you mate, as long as I'm alright and to he!! with tomorrow.

Do you trust easily or are you considered a cynical ol' fart? Do you have people in your life that you know you can trust? When you really think about it it may come as a shock just how few there are.

 

[Ouachita]

Sorry to hear this Ali. Hang in there. Learn from it. Keep moving forward, even though it can be difficult. Remember what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Good luck to you.
The most difficult times in my life were due to betrayal of my trust, and both by persons whom I would have never expected it. We can never really know a person who would pretend to be the person we want them to be.......if that makes sense......
To answer your question.......I am still a very trusting person. I find life easier and less worrisome to have expectation of trust.

 

[wacocowboy]

D. T. A.

 

[JSCATTLE]

The only person on this earth I trusted passed away March 9th . that was my dad. I've been burned way too many times to truly trust anyone. I give people a chance but never really trust anyone .

 

[Commercialfarmer]

Trusting the wrong person a couple times and it's cost me dearly. Looking back, there were signs there that I shouldn't have. I think maybe I'm better at detecting those signs and heeding them.

In the end, I can generally live with being the fool. But it would hurt me more to be the one letting someone else down.

 

[greybeard]

I trust myself least of all.

 

[Rafter S]

I'm sorry to hear that you've been cheated by someone you trusted.

And by the way, that saying about the root of all evil is from the Bible. And it's not money, but the love of money.

 

[plumber_greg]

Don't agree with you all. My business grosses around 750k+ yearly. In 35 years, I have maybe signed 2 contracts. May have not signed any.
I have people living 5 hours away that have paid me 75,000 dollars on one job that I have not met, just talked to on the phone.
Only been stuck on a few smaller jobs, $400 ones, that were in my area.
I know we can all be fooled, but I'm just one of those people that look for only the good in people. Never lock the house, don't know where the keys are. Keys are always in vehicles, don't lock them in town either. If you need some money, I usually keep around $500 in cash in the console between the seats. I sign checks in some places and tell the people to fill in the amount.
That being said, you only get one chance to screw me, so make it worth it cuz' I'm gonna' find you. gs

 

[backhoeboogie]

Sorry you were cheated

Trust is a two way street.

What goes around will come around. Keep doing the right things.

 

[ddd75]

i don't trust anyone. get everything in writing. i moved to a new location and the people around here will try to get you anyway they can with a smile on their face.

Then they sell trash like its gold and if you try to even get them to come down a little bit in price they act like you just robbed them and beat them with a stick. It's unreal how they act around here.

I guess thats how they act when they have all inherited everything they own and have never worked a day in their life.

Here's a great example.. helped a neighbor out for around 6 months completely for free doing tons of labor. probably 30k worth of work done to his place for free.. while i'm helping him all day long while my farm needs attention.. at night him and a guy about 6 miles away are stealing my cattle. 12k in cattle stolen.. i got them from the back40 and I was about sick after counting them. then I noticed the old gate between properties was not 2' down in the ground anymore.. you could clearly see the groove where it used to be but now just resting on the ground... pretty easy to figure out what happened there. I have a lot more but don't want to remember all that.

 

[TexasBred]

I'm a very trusting person. Can't say that I've ever been really taken advantage of but have had a few small things occur that at least "hurt" a bit and made me question whether I should be so trusting. I still do a lot on nothing more than a handshake and a verbal agreement.

 

[Deepsouth]

I'm kind of like plummer greg and TexasBred. I'm not preaching here just telling where my worldview comes from. Jesus said we are to treat others as we would want them to treat us. I try my best to do that and I guess because of that I expect the same from others. But I realize I'm in a minority and most people don't know anything about Jesus teaching much less share my worldview. I also know that the Bible teaches that no one is perfect and we live in a fallen state in a fallen world so really no one can be trusted. I've let people down myself so I also agree with greybeard, I can't trust myself so how can I trust anyone but I want to.

 

[Alan]

I'm not a very trusting person anymore. While I do the vast majority of small agreements verbally and/or with a handshake anything large is always written (plumbergreg, you are a very lucky man in my opinion). I thought about this thread for a long while and I can only think of one man I trust at this point in my life, there was another man I trusted a while ago but he has past. Burn me once and you have lost my trust forever, i don't even trust my children completely, just too many lies to me in their adult lives. Too many bounced checks in our business, etc. kind of sad, but it's how life has made me.

 

[ChrisB]

I will trust others until they prove they are not worthy. In the last couple years I have bought 3 pieces of farm equipment from private parties in other states sight-un-seen. I just sent them a personal check and they were fine with that. Each time the equipment was exactly like they described.

It seems like it would be a pretty miserable life if you didn't trust anyone.

 

[highgrit]

It seems like it would be a pretty miserable life if you didn't trust anyone.[/quote]

That's the way I see things also. I've been ripped off by friends and family, but I'm not going to live without trust. Trust is the most important thing in life.

 

[jltrent]

Sometimes you have to take a chance.

 

[Nesikep]

i've been burnt by a few people who I though were friends, or could be trusted.. a grand here or there.. it sucks, but I'm not losing sleep over it anymore.. hopefully someday they get what's coming to them.
I can think of about 5 people I trust completely... and one is my ex GF (that's pretty rare).

By default I am quite trusting, and trying to keep myself protected from trusting too far is always on my mind in my dealings.

 

[JSCATTLE]

I don't mind of people treat me like they don't trust me. It doesn't hurt me in anyway . I really don't miss anything by not trusting others either . It's not like I have a void in my life because of it or anything . I'm all about self preservation and part of that is not letting people take advantage of you . I work very hard for what I have and would hate to catch someone stealing it .

 

[alisonb]

Thanks Ouachita, Rafter and BB - It'll be OK, I'll close the door and walk away

And by the way, that saying about the root of all evil is from the Bible. And it's not money, but the love of money.

You are dead on and it's not 'all evil' it's 'all kinds of evil' ;-)

I'll tell you what you can usually trust...your intuition. Mine in this instance said 'draw up a contract Ali' and I ignored it :cry2:

I trust myself least of all.

Never trust a man with a beard

 

[3waycross]

Sorry Ali. This stuff happens all the time. People who you trust do things that simply astound you and then expect you to continue to trust them. All I can figure is they must be so desperate for money that it wrecks whatever moral compass they have, or ever had.

I usually just try not to let them do me twice and sometimes circumstances make even that hard to do.

All you can do is write it off to experience and move on. Anything else will tear you up and not bother them one bit.