Respect ?

[Travlr]

One of my aunts went off about how I can get my own food and don't do that for him. She even went up to my cousin and told her... don't take that to him.
I get at one time that was maybe over used in a negative way but my cousin was just doing some thing nice for me. I didn't ask for it or expect any thing. In reverse, I would have no problem doing the same for her. People have no sense. It's one extreme or the other.

Basic courtesy and the idea that kindness can be given without weighing who gets more or less... and whether there is some kind of advantage being taken. Very "old school", but we were happier when we weren't worried about everything being abusive or oppressive. Dare I say it? Women were happier too.

 

[Jeanne - Simme Valley]

This family has been here for maybe 5 years now. Dont know where they were from. Absolutely love listening to them. But, mostly just so refreshing to be around such nice, polite people. Really fit what I still think of "southerners".

 

[greybeard]

a sign of the times:

"I log into Facebook and see that everyone is at the bar...
So I go to the bar and see that everyone is on Facebook"
-----------------------"

 

[Named'em Tamed'em]

A song by Aretha Franklin?

I always feel smarter after a good spelling song, respect, Gloria etc.

 

[Named'em Tamed'em]

I bet most of them run out of gas driving in circles before they realize a long range trip is in order.

Probably looking for a place to plug their freaking car into!!

 

[10-e-c-dirtfarmer]

This family has been here for maybe 5 years now. Dont know where they were from. Absolutely love listening to them. But, mostly just so refreshing to be around such nice, polite people. Really fit what I still think of "southerners".

Ask where they from, I R a southern red neck, (SRN) and at least once a week I'll ask someone, " You aint from here are you??"
As a side note what pee's me off, They move here because they don't like the way their former city, county, state did things, but then they try to change how we do things.
ASSIMILATE don't CHANGE
Glad I got that off my chest, Y'll have a great week!

 

[greybeard]

Ask where they from, I R a southern red neck, (SRN) and at least once a week I'll ask someone, " You aint from here are you??"
As a side note what pee's me off, They move here because they don't like the way their former city, county, state did things, but then they try to change how we do things.
ASSIMILATE don't CHANGE
Glad I got that off my chest, Y'll have a great week!

 

[Dave]

Ask where they from, I R a southern red neck, (SRN) and at least once a week I'll ask someone, " You aint from here are you??"
As a side note what pee's me off, They move here because they don't like the way their former city, county, state did things, but then they try to change how we do things.
ASSIMILATE don't CHANGE
Glad I got that off my chest, Y'll have a great week!

That happens everywhere. Especially in more rural areas with people from larger urban areas moving in. 30-40 years ago it was Californians moving to western Oregon and Washington. Now there isn't a lot of difference between those areas.

 

[Ky hills]

It’s a lot that way here too. There is a lot of different dynamics at play that kind of make it worse. A lot of people here think they have to be better than somebody else. Generally the phrase “yain’t from around here are ye” is a rural local asking a perceived out of towner, and not in a mean or negative way just a curiosity, or a conversation starter.
When a local city person asks “you’re not from around here are you?” It’s generally meant in a condescending way.
If a local or transplanted city person sees a perceived rural person they can act rude and hateful and be as unhelpful as possible. It’s why a lot is go out of town to do business.

 

[BFE]

That’s the only good thing about living in downstate Illinois. No one wants to move here because of the Chicago influence which leaves us without the people from the coasts. The only draw here is trophy deer hunting.

 

[lynnmcmahan]

Ask where they from, I R a southern red neck, (SRN) and at least once a week I'll ask someone, " You aint from here are you??"
As a side note what pee's me off, They move here because they don't like the way their former city, county, state did things, but then they try to change how we do things.
ASSIMILATE don't CHANGE
Glad I got that off my chest, Y'll have a great week!

Wishful thinking

 

[10-e-c-dirtfarmer]

Wishful thinking

We have our dreams

 

[Jeanne - Simme Valley]

This family is a great addition to our state. Super good people.
But, we have people moving out into our rural roads. Complain about the horse turds in the road from the Amish. Complain about some mud in road from tractors.
If you want to live in the country, don't think you are going to change us.
I grew up as a city person. Moved to the country at 21 and never looked back. No other life for me.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

I have enjoyed reading this discussion about respect. On the subject of nice and polite southerners - Yesterday I was at the other place working on chopping the blackberry sticker vines off the driveway fences because if you don't keep them chopped they take over the landscape. I could overhear the neighbor that lives in a house down below, a loud talking west coast raised young single man, practially yelling to a friend over the phone discussing something about cars. And I am not kidding literally every other word was F**king this, F**king that. Or some derivative of sh*t. I just couldn't beleive it.

When I got home I asked my Texan husband, do men always talk to each other like this? Do they use such language when no women or kids are around? I asked him Did he talk like this working with other men when no women or kids were around? He said no he generally doesn't talk like that. He also mentioned, You know, men are not issued papers at the beginning on how to speak and deport themselves.

I happen to have been fortunate to know the women who raised my husband because they still lived at the ranch when I first met him 40 years ago. These were genuine actual southern ladies.

My question is to the men here-- Do you talk like that to other men when no women are around? It's perfectly OK if you do I am just taking a survey. It would be nice to know for the survey your general location.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

I've grown up and mostly lived in the rural south. There was a general dislike of 'yankees' although not spoken of to outsiders because it wouldn't be polite. Here is an example of politeness. When we were courting a hot date for us was going to bull sales. The first sale we went to a Beefmaster sale in West Texas at a rodeo arena. We walked around looking at the bulls. There were little signs on each pen with a bull in it. 38cm, 40 cm. Finally I had to ask What are these numbers. Mam he said, That is the circumference of the bulls testicles. My god I said, Why? Who's job is that? He told me about the association with increased fertility in the bull's daughters

A tall cowboy came over, a friend of my husband. I was introduced and the man lifted his hat but never looked directly at me. The whole conversation he never glanced at me one time. After he left I asked Why did that man never look at me?J said oh, he was looking at you alright, he was looking all over you with his periferal vision. Why I asked? Because it is not considered polite to look at another man's woman.

 

[ChrisB2]

I have enjoyed reading this discussion about respect. On the subject of nice and polite southerners - Yesterday I was at the other place working on chopping the blackberry sticker vines off the driveway fences because if you don't keep them chopped they take over the landscape. I could overhear the neighbor that lives in a house down below, a loud talking west coast raised young single man, practially yelling to a friend over the phone discussing something about cars. And I am not kidding literally every other word was F**king this, F**king that. Or some derivative of sh*t. I just couldn't beleive it.

When I got home I asked my Texan husband, do men always talk to each other like this? Do they use such language when no women or kids are around? I asked him Did he talk like this working with other men when no women or kids were around? He said no he generally doesn't talk like that. He also mentioned, You know, men are not issued papers at the beginning on how to speak and deport themselves.

I happen to have been fortunate to know the women who raised my husband because they still lived at the ranch when I first met him 40 years ago. These were genuine actual southern ladies.

My question is to the men here-- Do you talk like that to other men when no women are around? It's perfectly OK if you do I am just taking a survey. It would be nice to know for the survey your general location.

In my experience most guys talk "normal", but I can think of several guys that couldn't say a sentence that didn't include at least one curse word. Might be a coincidence but all 4 of the ones that come to mind either had their mom walk out or died and they were raised by their dad.

 

[Jeanne - Simme Valley]

My family and friends in RI, men and women, talk like that. Not "swearing" like because they're mad. Just normal talking.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

So they are easterners. Thanks. The west coast guy down the hill in Oregon was not angry, just talking with a friend about car engines. He has always used polite words around me . So he has some sense of respect and politeness. I am just astonished to hear such filthy talk.

One time in there was a man with a booming loud voice talking incredible filth on a cell phone. This was in a Walmart in CoosBay Oregon. You could hear him several isles over. There were lots of women and little kids present the mothers were trying to herd away. I asked him politiely could you please tone down language because of the kids and he yelled F you! It was so bad I conntacted managnemt. They said they would take care of it.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

I've always wondered- what do people like that use when they REALLY NEED a curse word?

I just read how Warren took care of a filthy mouth lout at a dove shoot he hosted. Please read Sthrncwboys post in /toughest-atheletes-toughest-men-period-in-the-world/ post # 32. That is a real southerner.

 

[Little Joe]

I have enjoyed reading this discussion about respect. On the subject of nice and polite southerners - Yesterday I was at the other place working on chopping the blackberry sticker vines off the driveway fences because if you don't keep them chopped they take over the landscape. I could overhear the neighbor that lives in a house down below, a loud talking west coast raised young single man, practially yelling to a friend over the phone discussing something about cars. And I am not kidding literally every other word was F**king this, F**king that. Or some derivative of sh*t. I just couldn't beleive it.

When I got home I asked my Texan husband, do men always talk to each other like this? Do they use such language when no women or kids are around? I asked him Did he talk like this working with other men when no women or kids were around? He said no he generally doesn't talk like that. He also mentioned, You know, men are not issued papers at the beginning on how to speak and deport themselves.

I happen to have been fortunate to know the women who raised my husband because they still lived at the ranch when I first met him 40 years ago. These were genuine actual southern ladies.

My question is to the men here-- Do you talk like that to other men when no women are around? It's perfectly OK if you do I am just taking a survey. It would be nice to know for the survey your general location.

I'm not what I would consider a cusser, as in I don't just cuss to be cussing. But when I'm working on stuff or with cattle and things don't go as planned I do start spewing profanities and instead of saying crap I often use the other term, or instead of butt I use the other word and I occasionally use the term for a female dog. When I do use these words I generally know the company I am with and what is acceptable to them. I try not to cuss in front of kids at all and not in front of women I don't know. When I do use cuss words, other than in anger or frustration, I use them in proper context as in instead of saying cow crap I'll say the other word. I too hate to hear someone think they have to cuss just to be cussing. I try to conduct myself as a Christian should and some would probably say since I cuss at all I'm not really a Christian but I disagree, alot of it has to do with what kind of people you hear talking, how you grew up and the context in which you use the words. My conviction is moreso what my attitude was when I used the word, if in anger it was sinful, but in proper context I don't feel it is. With that said I absolutely hate the F word or GD.