My inlaws moved to us. :help: We've had our differences, but i found out that telling them they are wrong is wrong because i did rely on them more than i'd like to admit...Like i said, pick your battle, one you can win. Hitting them head on is not going to work...The only one i hit head on was, FIL drinking while he drove them around...Now, i know that puts pictures in everyones head as does mine....But he was from a different era. I didnt realize this until i watched Mad Men..They hit the nail on the head of my parents generation. This is what i was at battle with. I did hit that one head on and put a stop to that for obvious reasons, but it also sends a message to the kids, if they can do it why cant i. MIL was champion at empty praise.. Telling the kids they did good when i knew they didnt even try. Not that i countered that with negativity.....I danced around it where it just didnt happen, without anyone knowing what i was doing and making me the bad guy.
Be smart.....sports, showing livestock, are good things to get them in that takes up their time. Burning a bridge with the rents only makes your job harder. As the kids get older, having them around will be a big help.. My kids all stop off to see their grandparents regularly...she still gives them junk to eat, buys them clothes.....its sweet and the kids are very lucky to have them...
PS......one daughter leaves her 2yr old down there when she feeds cows. MIL is doing something that totally drives me batty and its not even my kid. She allows child to drag her around by the finger to what she wants.. No even remotely my type of parenting...sure its cute, but make the kid talk and tell you what they want. Its just me, i just have to let it go.....she'll speak when she's ready i guess...lol
Be smart.....sports, showing livestock, are good things to get them in that takes up their time. Burning a bridge with the rents only makes your job harder. As the kids get older, having them around will be a big help.. My kids all stop off to see their grandparents regularly...she still gives them junk to eat, buys them clothes.....its sweet and the kids are very lucky to have them...
PS......one daughter leaves her 2yr old down there when she feeds cows. MIL is doing something that totally drives me batty and its not even my kid. She allows child to drag her around by the finger to what she wants.. No even remotely my type of parenting...sure its cute, but make the kid talk and tell you what they want. Its just me, i just have to let it go.....she'll speak when she's ready i guess...lol