Got a bad situation, and it's getting worse. My parents and I are very close. I need advice, on how to handle this situation. The correct answer would be haul off, and tell them to mind their own business. Problem is, that's not going to work. At least, without leading to hard feelings.
One common reoccurring scenario:
1. My wife is a teacher. The kids go to her school. School lets out at 2:20. She stays, and works a little longer. Usually an hour or so.
2. My parents think it's a travesty that the kids don't leave school at 2:20. They also think it's a travesty to ride the bus. Against my wishes, they pick them up everyday. Neither choice is bad to me. They all have an hour of homework, just stay and do it there. Riding the bus, ain't no bad way to go either.
3. They bring the kids to my house. No problem there. My mother usually makes some eloborate snack, and encourages them to relax, and watch some TV. That doesn't sound so awful either, but my standing order for the kids is to strip off your school clothes, put on some work clothes, and get started on as many chores as you can knock out before I get home at 4:45. Then we finish chores together, and either practice rodeo, or tackle a worth while project (fencing, mowing, cleaning).
4. I've expressed my disappointment at of this situation on numerous occasions. Came home this evening to kids piled on couches and chairs, watching TV, and eating snacks.
I'm actually pretty thick skinned, so if you need to let me have it, give it to me. I should have made a scene a long time ago. I haven't yet, in an attempt to keep the peace. The kids know how I feel, but swear my mother won't let them get started. Idk. I may even be expecting too much. I personally see nothing wrong with making kids work. My parents certainly saw nothing wrong with making me work. They actually got a little too much of their money's worth out of me. That may weigh in to their actions. We raise 15-20 acres of tobacco, and put 10,000-15,000 square bales a year. This was all with no hired help. My back was shot by the time I finally got out of the house. We're not talking about that kind of labor. We're talking about day to day chores, with a little labor throwed in.
What in the world do I do? Am I expecting too much? It's gone on all winter. Now with the time change, it's really getting under my skin. Ample opportunity to knock out some good projects, before it gets hot. You know what I mean. This is the best time year for some things.
One common reoccurring scenario:
1. My wife is a teacher. The kids go to her school. School lets out at 2:20. She stays, and works a little longer. Usually an hour or so.
2. My parents think it's a travesty that the kids don't leave school at 2:20. They also think it's a travesty to ride the bus. Against my wishes, they pick them up everyday. Neither choice is bad to me. They all have an hour of homework, just stay and do it there. Riding the bus, ain't no bad way to go either.
3. They bring the kids to my house. No problem there. My mother usually makes some eloborate snack, and encourages them to relax, and watch some TV. That doesn't sound so awful either, but my standing order for the kids is to strip off your school clothes, put on some work clothes, and get started on as many chores as you can knock out before I get home at 4:45. Then we finish chores together, and either practice rodeo, or tackle a worth while project (fencing, mowing, cleaning).
4. I've expressed my disappointment at of this situation on numerous occasions. Came home this evening to kids piled on couches and chairs, watching TV, and eating snacks.
I'm actually pretty thick skinned, so if you need to let me have it, give it to me. I should have made a scene a long time ago. I haven't yet, in an attempt to keep the peace. The kids know how I feel, but swear my mother won't let them get started. Idk. I may even be expecting too much. I personally see nothing wrong with making kids work. My parents certainly saw nothing wrong with making me work. They actually got a little too much of their money's worth out of me. That may weigh in to their actions. We raise 15-20 acres of tobacco, and put 10,000-15,000 square bales a year. This was all with no hired help. My back was shot by the time I finally got out of the house. We're not talking about that kind of labor. We're talking about day to day chores, with a little labor throwed in.
What in the world do I do? Am I expecting too much? It's gone on all winter. Now with the time change, it's really getting under my skin. Ample opportunity to knock out some good projects, before it gets hot. You know what I mean. This is the best time year for some things.