GMN-
ive been thinking about your post off and on all day today. Some thoughts that came to mind:
venting helps, especially to a non-involved party. this forum is an excellent place to vent.
There is a point every year, usually near the end of winter on a rainy, cold, muddy day when i'm feeding cows in the cold wind and rain when i officially burn out and kick the tractor tire, throw my hands up in the air and scream something to the effect of "this is freaking ridiculous!" I think what a moron i am to have chosen to do this for a living. Then a mental picture pops into my head of my friends getting off work, driving their nice automobiles to their nice newly built starter mansion and getting ready to go on a weeklong vacation to the bahamas or somewhere like that. or maybe even mow their one acre of grass or fix the "fence" so the dog cant get out or getting ready to go fishing -i dont have time to fish. i think this will never be me. i will never have nice things or the opportunity to travel. i have too many responsibilities. this exacerbates the problem and i feel overwhelmed. Back in November i lost my grandmother at the age of 94. she was my best friend and i stayed with her her last year to look after her at night. the afternoon of her funeral i had to leave early to come home and feed cows. i went up the road with the front end loader to get some hay. i had a flat tire on the way and had to walk back home, get the other tractor and go get (6) rolls of hay to feed one at a time. The next day my pet cow died of mysterious symptoms. she was old so not really unexpected just kind of strange. over the next few days i lost my other two elderly cows i had been supplementing for the winter. botulism-all three. had just read about it here but never experienced it. i got all the old girls buried and kind of felt like i was starting anew in a sense. then my dads health started deteriorating. he hasnt been able to help much physically since then. he became depressed...then my sister announced she is engaged which should be a great thing but at this point is just another thing for us all to deal with, accept, and then worry about planning and paying for. the next day i had to start bottlefeeding a calf. that same week my engine blew. woo! a chance to spend some money. not. so i start driving my dads old truck but first i have to get a new battery and tire b/c we have a bunch of crap. so i get all that done and get in the truck to go check on the cows and pull up to the gate and stop to open the gate. what the crap!? i said STOP. STOP!!! no brakes... smash right thru the gate. there goes the front grill and one headlight, plus i have to fix the gate. well this trucks not really safe to drive on the road so i went and got my grandmothers car to use for a few weeks. on the way home it sounds like i get shot at. i look around to see whats going on and there is a semi 3 lanes over on the other side of the road and that is the only other vehicle around. apparently it threw a rock at me and busted the windshield. the next day the roll up window fell out... crap. meanwhile back at the ranch i now have 3 bottle babies for three different reasons to take care of, calving is in full swing and ive lost two calves. i have turned the cows in on some rye though so i should have some worryfree days assuming calving goes okay, right? no such luck- the cows bust out and THEY HAVE PLENTY OF GRASS TO EAT!!! they just did it because they were bored. so by this point i'm am livid and right on the edge. i finally got the cows back in and am fixing the fence and while i'm doing that they broke out a different spot on the same fence line but down on the other side of the gate. it was a full moon. this pushes me over the edge. i mean i flat out freaked the heck out. i go tearing out across the pasture on the fourwheeler scattering fencing tools etc as i go full speed ahead and run these cows 900 acres diagonally across the farm, and i mean i am right on their heels too. that was the night i came in, thru down my towel, announced to my father we were selling cows, and wrote the post entitled "i hate cows". all the bull crap we deal with everyday eventually just adds up to one big pile of bull crap. it makes you feel like the suckiest cattleman that ever cattled and on days when you get overwhelmed like that even your very best cow will seem like a cull.
here it is however many months later and i just bought 30 new pairs from my dad. so i am back up to 98 of my own personal cows. yeah i must really hate cows huh? i had my grandmother, my best friend for 27 wonderful years and she was in great health all of that but 2 weeks. i have my dad, alive, to guide me and teach me and he and my mom have been together all this time. i had a back up tractor to feed cows with. my pet cows are in peace and wont have any more winters to endure. no more supplementing retirees. all of my bottle calves have made and it and are thriving. i dwelled on the few calves i lost but what about the 150 live healthy ones i havent had to assist at all? i have back up means of transportation (though still crappy, lol) and the funds to get my engine replaced. i have a strong fence where it once was weak and the health to repair the fence. i have a four wheeler on which to scare the bejeezus out of misbehaven cows. i found all my fencing tools.i have enough cows to sell some and enable us to continue farming another year and not really even miss the ones ive sold. (most of these really did need culling). etc etc. my point is there is a positive to every situation that there is a negative.
what helps? for me-- hearing that others have the same (or worse)troubles as me and can overcome them, helping others, going out and finding a new healthy, live, baby calf that knows what to do and whos mother is accepting of it and capable of raising it. watching them bounce around is what its all about. listening to cows gather up right before dark, watching them graze while the sun sets in the background. seeing the calves that i have saved growing. getting my arm licked while i'm sitting out there on the fourwheeler. learning the lessons i have that my friends will never know. having land that for every burden there may be a blessing. rain. fresh air. family. good health. a future full of inspiration. time. the list goes on...