Am I wrong

[cowboy43]

Friend of mine does good deeds , like when buying a hamburger, she will pay for the person's behind her even if they are a stranger, it gives her a fuzzy feeling , then she posts on facebook what she has done, then everyone tells how sweet and good she is, I think if she told no one it would be a good deed , but by telling everyone, she is just doing it for her own satisfaction to feel good about herself. Am I wrong in thinking so? :?:

 

[chippie]

No you are not wrong. People who care about helping others don't brag about it. She does it for the attention.

 

[backhoeboogie]

Perhaps. Maybe she wants to encourage others to do the same. Yesterday I found myself humbled a d posted about the experience on here. It was really no different.

 

[chippie]

I am not so sure about that backhoeboogie. I know a young woman like cowboy43 mentioned. She will post stuff on Facebook about something that she did and all of her friends gush how wonderful she is. She eats it up. If a friend does something kind, she never says a nice word about it.

There are many nice folks here and many have done some incredibly kind, generous and wonderful things to help others and change lives for the better.

 

[Bigfoot]

Perhaps. Maybe she wants to encourage others to do the same. Yesterday I found myself humbled a d posted about the experience on here. It was really no different.

That was different. Here it encourages others to do the same. Plus we all have ananimity. When people post on social medeiA to their friends, it's just bragging.

 

[cow pollinater]

Perhaps. Maybe she wants to encourage others to do the same. Yesterday I found myself humbled a d posted about the experience on here. It was really no different.

That was different. Here it encourages others to do the same. Plus we all have ananimity. When people post on social medeiA to their friends, it's just bragging.

I agree. I think if bhb were the kind of person to do stuff for recognition we'd have seen it by now and we haven't seen that at all. Humbled is quite a bit different from what cowboy43 is talking about. ;-)

I left a church over this kind of behavior. There were people who were multi-millionares there who would write a check when asked and brag about it and demand that everyone notice what a good christian they were and I was writing bigger checks than they were in private to charities that didn't ask. I decided if that was their version of faith I didn't need it.

 

[cow pollinater]

The best thing about a person that gives for recognition is that you can goad them into giving more. ;-)
As much as they bother me they are still better than people that can give but don't.

 

[slick4591]

I don't see it any different from the food thread. If I prepare something I'm proud of why not take a picture and show it off.

 

[snake67]

In Canada it is quite common to have the person in front of you in the drive through at Tim Horton's buy your coffee.

I probably do it about three times a week myself

Never said a word about it to anyone until now.

This past month in Alberta, Manitoba and somewhere just outside of Ottawa a person walked into the Tim Horton's and bought coffee for everyone and walked out.

Usually these are an anonymous buys - no one waits around for a thank you

It never hurts to make someones day a bit brighter.

However, bragging about it is the wrong part - it should always be kind of quiet - do it and leave.

Just my not so humble opinion

Bez

 

[Workinonit Farm]

I don't know, when I have committed charitable acts or committed randome acts of kindness I have not posted about it on FaceBook. I may mention it to a friend or my husband or I may not say anything at all. I certainly wouldn't feel inclined to broadcast it all over the public airwaves, as I am not looking for recognition or affirmation.

Katherine

 

[Bigfoot]

Side note:

There is a little greasy restaurant down the road from me. The old cutter that used to own it let 2 different people, and myself buy my lunch one day.

 

[Workinonit Farm]

Side note:

There is a little greasy restaurant down the road from me. The old cutter that used to own it let 2 different people, and myself buy my lunch one day.

:shock: :shock: :shock:

Katherine

 

[CottageFarm]

Cowboy, no you're not wrong in my (not very) humble opinion. While it's really terrific that she does nice things for people, and I'm sure they all appreciate it, it's kinda sad that she needs the affirmation and accolades from other people in order to feel good about herself.

Boogie, I don't see the comparison at all. You were sharing your wonderment at an 11 year old girl who was so humble and unassuming as to only ask for a few basic necessities that the rest of us all take so for granted as to not even think about it.
You didn't even say what you actually did, but I assumed you had a whole lot of fun doing it! :santa:

Slick, I don't really think that's the same thing either. Yeah, sometimes we post food we're proud of, sometimes it's just to share a new achievement, and sometimes it's just to share ideas. Sometimes it's about bragging rights, but it's different (to me anyway) when it's about a good deed for others.

 

[Jogeephus]

I think there should be some anonymity involved in charity for two reasons. First, broadcasting it to your friends and neighbors undermines the reason for doing the deed. Secondly, if you broadcast it you will inevitably become a mark for those leaches in society who will find you try and pull your heart strings to get at your purse strings.

 

[Commercialfarmer]

A couple months ago, someone anonymously bought my wife and daughter lunch in a little cafe a few counties over. The gesture really made her day.

I general, I believe that for a gift to really be a gift, it should be done in secrecy. The receiver shouldn't be embarrassed or paraded and the giver shouldn't need a pat on the back.

I also agree, the anonymity on here makes most things a different ballgame.

 

[Commercialfarmer]

I left a church over this kind of behavior.

Something caught my attention last week listening to the radio. The church has never been free of hypocrites, Judas was called to be apart of the 12 disciples (while Jesus fully knowing the hearts of men). Judas, prior to betraying Jesus, stole from the earliest offering. It illustrates that hypocrites have always been apart of the church and will through the ages. The important part being that the other 11 disciples didn't fall away because of the wrong doing of the 1, but pressed on with the good work.

The church is like a hospital, it is where the injured should go to heal. Hopefully, it is full of people each week that have a chance to hear a message.

 

[denvermartinfarms]

I agree.

 

[backhoeboogie]

Perhaps. Maybe she wants to encourage others to do the same. Yesterday I found myself humbled a d posted about the experience on here. It was really no different.

That was different. Here it encourages others to do the same. Plus we all have ananimity. When people post on social medeiA to their friends, it's just bragging.

You all are probably right. I have FB and it was never mentioned there. A few here could attest to that.

Different situation too.

That child's wants (needs) did indeed leave me a bit humbled. I feel great about what I did. Nothing to do with anyone seeing it. Plus I did not disclose everything other than saying "I probably overdid it"

 

[stocky]

Whether it is a situation of you seeing a soldier at a table at a restaurant and you go over and thank him or her for their service, then ask the cashier for their check and pay it as you go out the door (without them knowing), or you see a person or family in need and you drop off a basket of needed items on their porch, or many other situations we are all familiar with, the person who was helped knows someone did a kind deed. You know you did a kind deed and are thankful you were blessed enough to be in a position to help someone, and you were aware enough to recognize the need. Many times we are measured by what we do when no one is looking. Also, I like the saying, No Thanks Needed. To me, that means I did it because I was happy to do so, not because someone would thank me.

 

[I luv herfrds]

Was eating in Pizza Hut with hubby and I bought lunch for 3 airmen that were in there eating near us. Never said a word to anyone but the cashier until now. Never asked for a Thank You from anyone.