Thank you all so very much. :heart:
I guess he is stabilized and holding his own , but it is just a matter of time before everything else will shut down. All they can do is do blood transfusions and dialysis .
My nephew doesn't really want to go see his dad again at least not right away. His dad doesn't even know how to talk to him as he was just a small boy when he last really even paid attention to him. M said all he could think of about his life in the last visit and his dad really has nothing new to share . He even asked him " so what else have you been up to beside being in here ? " the reply was "well I am still drinking, but not as much as before " We knew that as he doesn't need as much as before because there is nothing to clean his blood .
I do not want to force him , so he has some projects due tomorrow and a birthday sleepover on Friday night . Maybe we will go up Saturday afternoon or Sunday . It has been really hard on all the kids , lots of different emotions going through them and way too much for any child to have to deal with. My sister was upset when she first heard how sick he was ,but now she is just bitter and angry again , and said she just wants him to die already . I hope she doesn't say this in front of the girls , no matter how she feels and that it might be for the best, the kids don't need to hear that about someone wanted their dad to die . I said to M that it was an emotional couple of days for me too , and he asked why . I guess they do not understand that we as adults have feelings too and he always sees me as the rock who can handle anything that comes her way . I explained to him that I have known his dad for over 20 years , he even was the MC at our wedding and I was matron of honor at their wedding . He has been a big part of my life and he gave me three fantastic members of my family that I love very much. I will always care about him , no matter how devastating his choices have been . Although it is easier for me to forgive as I did not have my life turned upside down emotionally and financially , however because I choose to care my life has changed dramatically in the last couple of years too.
If I could say one thing to parents from the eyes as someone who does not have kids . Please be a real parent, take the time give them structure and discipline and take the time to teach them things that are important in life so when the time comes they have the tools to cope and survive . Being a friend first or not doing things because it is easier to not care ,only damages them . It is easier to try and do your very best right off the hop than to come in half way and try to correct what was done wrong or what has never been done at all .Even though he is a great kid , it is an uphill battle daily to get him to actually care about others and not just when he gets something out of it .