EX WIVES!!!!!!!

[JDI]

Well, I came to Iraq in Oct. 2003...came home 1 yr. later in 2004 & no $$ in the bank & 1/2 my cows were gone.(10 head) I'm not talking comm. cattle either. Some of them were $3000.00 show heifers. Wife was drunk & bank statement showed 1500.00-2000.00 month checks written at bar. Needless to say a divorce was ensued. I supported here for 4 months & divorce final in Feb.2005. Took me 6 more months to pay bank off after borrowing to pay her off...
She bought a travel trailer to live in. We rented home while married.
In May 2006 her daughter calls me in Iraq & says they need to sell trailer because she is having breast cancer surgery & is moving in with them in Amarillo Tx. Trailer is near Houston. I pay her 5000.00 in monthly payments as asked so she will have $$ every month while recooping..in Oct. 2006 she is back in Houston area & living on the street almost. I let her move in trailer until she could save enough to buy her something or get somewhere to live.
In July 2007 I send her a certified letter I'm coming home for good 29th of Aug. to assume living in trailer. Got e-mail today trailer is gone!!!
I must have STUPID tatooed on my forehead!!!!!!!!!!

 

[CUZ]

I must have STUPID tatooed on my forehead!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sure that's the way you feel, but what I'm hearing makes me think you might have NICE GUY tattooed on you somewhere.

Just file this one under "No good deed goes unpunished". In a few years you'll only feel kinda stupid but you'll also feel a little satisfied that you tried to be the good guy and she was just too far gone to be helped.

Just my two cents worth
Cuz

 

[JDI]

May not be that easy. Got to get home on the 29th & see. There was a new MVE 20-20 semen tank still in box, 9mm pistol, 500 ft. rolls of #2 & #4 copper wire, all my clothes,boots, hats, tax papers for 2004,2005,2006 in the trailer..everthing I own was in there!!!!

 

[auctionboy]

Shouldn't have ran off to war after you married her.

 

[angie1]

Shouldn't have ran off to war after you married her.

Thats a joke ~ right?

 

[Lammie]

Shouldn't have ran off to war after you married her.

JDI, don't pay attention to that.

Okay, now you have been fooled twice, and the time to take control is here and now. You just can't feel sorry for some people and, unfortunately, you can't help some people, either, without getting ripped off. I think you are a good man that didn't want to see your ex suffer. She's taken you for a fool twice now and it is okay for you to wash your hands of her for good, now. Expensive lesson, I know. I have been there and done that. A lot of us have. Picl up and don't look back no matter how much she hollers for attention in the future. And good luck.

 

[flaboy?]

JDI, one thing I don't understand. I assume you are a contractor in Iraq. I don't know too many positions in the military where you could afford to pay her $5000 each month.

Anyway, sounds like she got the gold mine and you got the shaft. Down here, the courts work by this rule. :shock:

 

[dun]

Put on your big boy pants and get over it. Stay in contact with the kids and stear clear of any dealings with the ex. It took almost 10 years for my daughter to realize that I wasn;t the evil ogor, now we have an adult relationship. Of course she's almost 50 now, but it works out in time.

 

[JDI]

JDI, one thing I don't understand. I assume you are a contractor in Iraq. I don't know too many positions in the military where you could afford to pay her $5000 each month.

Flaboy,
You misunderstood...5000.00 total payment...paid in monthly payments so she couldn't blow it in 1 month... paid 600 month so she could have $$ each month until paid for... she has already sold the 2000 Ford F-350 4 door XLT she got out of the divorce because of a DUI & not able to get tags,inspection sticker, or ins...bought an older truck with tags & inspection sticker on it...what does she do when they expire..trade it again...you are correct on the contractor...
Dun,
No children with this wife...just bad memories!!! I will probably take her to small claims court for the 5000.00 just to show her that I won't stand for her foolishness in the future.

 

[flaboy?]

JDI, while I do feel for you, I agree with Dun, get over it. Forget she ever existed and move on. You won't be able to get blood from a turnip.

 

[dun]

BTW, thanks for doing your bit in Iraq!

 

[Crowderfarms]

I'd go out and buy that Dierks Bentley CD, listen to it time and again...The one about chasin' every skirt in town. :lol:

 

[JDI]

I most likely have lost the cash...it just pi$$es me off to watch the commericals & listen to women about sposual abuse!!! What about the women that abuse men ????? See alot of commercials with women always pictured talking about abuse...if it is the woman doing it there is no advertisement about it & try to prove it in court!!!!!!!!! I have whined enough...got to catch the Rhino...Baghdad in my rear view mirrow will look GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[dun]

I most likely have lost the cash...it just pi$$es me off to watch the commericals & listen to women about sposual abuse!!! What about the women that abuse men ????? See alot of commercials with women always pictured talking about abuse...if it is the woman doing it there is no advertisement about it & try to prove it in court!!!!!!!!! I have whined enough...got to catch the Rhino...Baghdad in my rear view mirrow will look GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!

Remeber Bobbit? An appropriate name if ever there was one. Small claims court is kind of like peeing in a black suit. No body knows or cares but you.

 

[Jogeephus]

Be thankful you don't have children with her and your tie with her is so easily severed.

Understand that you will never understand what possessed her to act so foolishly but also keep in mind you got one big plus in your corner. That is, you don't have to live with her anymore but she will have to live with herself for the rest of her life. One day, God willing, this will matter.

 

[Horticattleman]

Shouldn't have ran off to war after you married her.

Even though he didn't, it is a shame that so many are willing to just to help protect sorry pieces of crap like you!

JDI thanks in whatever capacity you do it in. Do whatever you can to sever your ties for good and leave her be.

 

[I luv herfrds]

JDI I just got done scraping my chin up off the floor and thinking very unkind thoughts about your ex. My heart and sympathy goes out to you.
Don't keep kicking yourself, the only thing that will get done is give you a sore butt.
You're not the only good guy I have heard about who has gotten shafted by the ex. I had a friend years ago who's ex stole his truck while he was away.

First look at it as a very bad learning experince. Now take a deep breath, hold it................ let it out.
Next look for my PM. What I am about to tell you not everybody will agree with and I don't want to start a big debate.

 

[Gate Opener]

My brother had a bumper sticker that said "I missed my ex wife.......I'll aim better next time. He was just kidding of course, they were actually on civil terms.

Use this as a learning experience. You know what to look out for next time and what not to do. You will choose better. Oh and don't beat yourself up.

Thanks for serving!

 

[msscamp]

I must have STUPID tatooed on my forehead!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sure it feels that way, but I don't think that is the case.

 

[newrancher]

JDI, like someone else said , your just a nice guy AND THERE IS A MARKET FOR EM, so dont beat yourself up. Small claims is a waste of time, move on and have absolutely NO contact with her, if she speaks to you just keep walking because all it takes is a phone call from her to the police with a trumped up allegation and youll be in trouble. You can take consolation in the fact, seen it many times and it sounds like the road shes traveling, that she will never amount to anything or have anything or anybody worth a damn. When she dies, quietly place flowers on her grave, wait until everyone leaves and then pi$$ on them, after all you paid for em.