Don't be too friendly...

[alisonb]

Some people may see your friendliness for something else and when you reject their advances the may just run to the Human Rights Commission and you may just get slapped with a discrimination violation against you :shock: :shock: :shock:

People are weird!!!

 

[alisonb]

...and if you are thinking it was a male it was not . I had to be present at a function being one of the committee members, my boyfriend could not join me so I went alone. Sorry...I'm not discriminating, we have lovely friends in our community that are gay and are treated no differently. I have them and numerous messages from this 'woman' that will turn the case around. What a waste of ones time!

 

[Nesikep]

Doesn't sound like fun.

Sounds like another product of the self esteem movement.. gotta go blame someone else

 

[Jogeephus]

Nothing can compare to the wrath of a woman whether she is Lebanese or not but some of those Lebanese can be viscous. I once danced with a Lebanese girl at a wedding while her "partner" watched. All was fine till the music switched to a slow dance and I brought her in tight. I could see in her partner's eyes she wanted to claw mine out. So I squeezed her tighter. Yeah I know I shouldn't have but that wouldn't be ME.

 

[alisonb]

Doesn't sound like fun.

It's certainly not and it's really time consuming. Have submitted my statement together with 6 sworn affidavits from other people to HR Commission. Not just my time but many others as well. Now we wait...

Nothing can compare to the wrath of a woman whether she is Lebanese or not but some of those Lebanese can be viscous. I once danced with a Lebanese girl at a wedding while her "partner" watched. All was fine till the music switched to a slow dance and I brought her in tight. I could see in her partner's eyes she wanted to claw mine out. So I squeezed her tighter. Yeah I know I shouldn't have but that wouldn't be ME.

You are a brave man Jogeephus

 

[Workinonit Farm]

alisonb, I'm sorry to hear that this has happened. :???: It really does amaze me, sometimes, how being a friendly person and being friendly/personable can be misconstrued as something entirely different. It has happened to me but fortunately it didn't involve discrimination accustations. :roll:

With this person, it almost sounds like they were embarrassed about the incident, and in order to save face, you ahve been hit with this discrimination thing.

I hope it gets cleared up soon.

 

[Son of Butch]

Nothing can compare to the wrath of a woman whether she is Lebanese or not but some of those Lebanese can be viscous. I once danced with a Lebanese girl at a wedding while her "partner" watched. All was fine till the music switched to a slow dance and I brought her in tight. I could see in her partner's eyes she wanted to claw mine out. So I squeezed her tighter. Yeah I know I shouldn't have but that wouldn't be ME.

Cat Fight!

 

[Son of Butch]

People are weird!!!

People are the worst. ugh, I hate'm - Elaine on Seinfeld

 

[Commercialfarmer]

Obviously to show you aren't discriminating, you just need to kiss and make up. :hide:

 

[alisonb]

Thanks Workinonit Farms

I hope it gets cleared up soon.

Thanks ...my words to the Commission - "It is my opinion that this complaint should have been rejected by yourselves as frivolous, misconceived and unwarranted from the onset and I respectfully request that you do not entertain it any further." Will hopefully hear from them this week.

Obviously to show you aren't discriminating, you just need to kiss and make up. :hide:

Yeah...sure :help:

 

[jedstivers]

Your missing your chance.
You need to be sueing for untold millions because of sexual harassment, unwanted advances, several other things a lawyer can think up.
Go after the person making the complaint, you can use their own complaint as evidence, go after whoever it was you had to write a letter to, name everyone.

 

[cow pollinater]

Be careful! The last time a woman hit on me I wound up in a legal contract that entitled her to half my stuff if she quit liking me! Women are devious!

 

[ez14]

Be careful! The last time a woman hit on me I wound up in a legal contract that entitled her to half my stuff if she quit liking me! Women are devious!

Oh boy cp how did you let that happen :lol:

 

[wv mud river]

the more I am around people the better I like my dog.

 

[alisonb]

Your missing your chance.
You need to be sueing for untold millions because of sexual harassment, unwanted advances, several other things a lawyer can think up.
Go after the person making the complaint, you can use their own complaint as evidence, go after whoever it was you had to write a letter to, name everyone.

Jed, I have considered doing that but wonder what quality of life I would have whilst it was ongoing. Something like that consumes one and instead of enjoying life you are thinking of the next move, it is always in the back of your mind. I strongly believe in 'What goes around comes around' and with that I need take no action .
What infuriates me is that someone can make wild accusations and turn your life up side down in an instant, I realise you are saying there is recourse for that but at what price... Don't want to contradict myself but if this thing gets ugly I may just have to follow your advice.

Be careful! The last time a woman hit on me I wound up in a legal contract that entitled her to half my stuff if she quit liking me! Women are devious!

You don't seem to mind that woman at all

 

[dun]

What infuriates me is that someone can make wild accusations and turn your life up side down in an instant

Had a similar issue some years ago. Changed how I dealt with people, not nearly as open with people as I was before it happened.

 

[Craig Miller]

I thought about you yesterday when a new service hand came out to the rig. I gave him a cold water and a candy bar. I wondered if I was being to friendly.

 

[alisonb]

Craig, as Dun said, it changes the way one deals with a person. One is even to scared to shake a hand or pat someone on the back never mind give them a hug :shock:.Careful with those candy bars :lol:

 

[Jogeephus]

Craig, as Dun said, it changes the way one deals with a person. One is even to scared to shake a hand or pat someone on the back never mind give them a hug :shock:.Careful with those candy bars :lol:

This goes along with something that happened to my son just last week. He wanted to thank a lady who works in an office. She isn't a "higher up" with some big title but she is really the person who got things done. The one in the trenches so to speak.

Anyway, he recognized that and saw how most ignored her and what she did so he wanted to thank her for helping him. To do that he gave her a thank you card along with a box containing homemade wines, cheese and salami. While she did thank him he said he could tell her body language was saying she was uncomfortable with the gift. As if there was some ulterior motive or something. We both wrote it off as her not being from the south but this thread makes me wonder if there wasn't more to it. Its a shame you can't say thank someone or be nice to them without them thinking the worse of you.

 

[TexasBred]

Craig, as Dun said, it changes the way one deals with a person. One is even to scared to shake a hand or pat someone on the back never mind give them a hug :shock:.Careful with those candy bars :lol:

This goes along with something that happened to my son just last week. He wanted to thank a lady who works in an office. She isn't a "higher up" with some big title but she is really the person who got things done. The one in the trenches so to speak.

Anyway, he recognized that and saw how most ignored her and what she did so he wanted to thank her for helping him. To do that he gave her a thank you card along with a box containing homemade wines, cheese and salami. While she did thank him he said he could tell her body language was saying she was uncomfortable with the gift. As if there was some ulterior motive or something. We both wrote it off as her not being from the south but this thread makes me wonder if there wasn't more to it. Its a shame you can't say thank someone or be nice to them without them thinking the worse of you.

Joe that gift may have been a bit suggestive. Should have just got her a can of Vienna sausage, a sleeve of saltine crackers and a 16 oz RC cola.