Do it for free?

[JHH]

What do most of you do for the inlaws for no charge.

I have one always wanting something for nothing and I am really getting kind of tired of it.

I put a rearend in his truck about three months ago ( he bought the parts ) I charged his A/C for him in his van ( same deal ) Put a fuel pump in his truck about a year ago ( same deal) The list goes on and on, and I got to thinking about it tonight while I was working on something and he was in watching T.V.

He is capable of doing alot of this stuff but I think he thinks that he found an easy way out.

Now he wants me to put a transmission in his S-10 blazer and I told him 300.00 and it made him kind of mad.

He always says He will help me do something but is never around to help.

JHH

 

[Bez?]

What do most of you do for the inlaws for no charge.

I have one always wanting something for nothing and I am really getting kind of tired of it.

I put a rearend in his truck about three months ago ( he bought the parts ) I charged his A/C for him in his van ( same deal ) Put a fuel pump in his truck about a year ago ( same deal) The list goes on and on, and I got to thinking about it tonight while I was working on something and he was in watching T.V.

He is capable of doing alot of this stuff but I think he thinks that he found an easy way out.

Now he wants me to put a transmission in his S-10 blazer and I told him 300.00 and it made him kind of mad.

He always says He will help me do something but is never around to help.

JHH

I need a front wheel bearing changed, a tranny fixed and a strut on a car fixed.

If I come down for a visit, I will let you feed me as well.

If I fetch the tools, will you consider that payment in full?

All kidding aside - why not do the "too busy right now" and keep it up. He will get the hint eventually.

Good luck,

Bez?

 

[Texas PaPaw]

JHH

The next time he wants you to do something, offer to teach him how to do it. Maybe that will get the message across.

Good luck & happy trails.

Brock

 

[Alice]

Sucks, doesn't it?

My husband has gone thru this kind of stuff with my brother...only it's come outta his pocket. God love Van's heart, he knew this kind of thing came outta my pocket before we got married, and at the time I could ill afford it.

Now, we both have stopped doing anything that involved MONEY. We both are willing to provide manual labor...but the dollars have dried up. And guess what! Things are going much more smoothly.

I don't kid myself...every now and then my brother and I have one he11 of a blow up...but, it settles down and baby brother learns that his sense of entitlement gets shorter and shorter.

I love my brother dearly...Van does, too...but there comes a time when boundaries have to be drawn and respected. Try it, JHH.

Alice

 

[jw]

Sounds like he has you where he wants you.

My suggestion would be to discuss it with your little woman before doing anything to really cause a ruckus. If she will not side with you, then you may have a bigger problem. If nothing else, I would try getting him weaned a little at a time. And some day, if you live long enough, you will realize you don't have all the time it takes to do his projects as well as yours and might suggest him get someone else to do his work.

But, remember, you still have to live with his daughter!!

 

[Nowland Farms]

JHH,

You are on the right track. Your Time is worth money.

I have a nephew who would give the shirt off his back to help if I or someone else needed it. I will help this kid anyway I can.

Other inlaws that do not try to help them selves get very little free help from me. If they are trying, I'll help them, otherwise if they want me to do it for them and they are not willing to at least help or hand me the wrenches or something, I'm too busy to help.

If they think you are a sucker enough to do all the work, they will let you be the sucker as long as you want to.

Sounds like it's time to be too busy to help the next time they ask...............

 

[JHH]

Yea thats what I have been doing for most everone else latley so why not him to.

To tell the truth I really am to busy. I helped another freind of mine out last week and didnt get out to check on the cows that night ( I know better) and found the fence torn down and the cows laying next to fresh bales of hay with a bite taken out of most of them. Freind did help me put fence back up.

No real harm done. JHH

 

[dun]

Move far far away from the relatives.

dun

 

[flaboy-]

I have been through the same thing. It seems once they know you can do something, they EXPECT you to do it for them. I finally put my foot down and said my work comes first. I can always find something on my place that needs work. :lol:

 

[Crowderfarms]

I used to do the same thing. Had to learn a simple 2 letter word. NO.There's nothing wrong with helping Family now and then, but when they abuse you into indentured servitude, it's time to throw the brakes on hard.

 

[rkm]

I guess if I was married to yous' guys sister you be mad at me. Its part of being married. You have to do stuff for your inlaws. FREE! :lol: :help:

 

[dj]

It depends for me. Some I will help. Some I wouldn't wet on if they were on fire. Last time I helped one, I cut/raked/baled all his hay for him. Got to January and I was short he offered to let me get a couple of bales!!! Lets see I bought the fuel, twine and grease. Used my equipment to get his hay in and he is willing to let me get a couple of bales?? On top of that he complained about the size/tightness of bale. And the ground wasn't even his so he had NO costs in the production. That was the end.

dun advice is best keep them at bay.

 

[cmjust0]

Go ahead and agree to do the transmission.. Tear it down, and then get really, really busy with other stuff for about.....I dunno....say, 3 or 4 months?

If they complain, offer them their money back.

That should shut them up for a good long while.

 

[Cowboy15]

My uncle will come and borrow our tractor and bosh hog well when he goes hocks it up. He never takes off the jack on the bush hog well he turns way to sharp and ever time he breaks it off. It is not hard to fix but it gets tiring buying a new jack and puting it on cuz we tell him this is were you put the jack.
Sam

 

[Alice]

My uncle will come and borrow our tractor and bosh hog well when he goes hocks it up. He never takes off the jack on the bush hog well he turns way to sharp and ever time he breaks it off. It is not hard to fix but it gets tiring buying a new jack and puting it on cuz we tell him this is were you put the jack.
Sam

I'm afraid I'd have to tell him the next time he comes to borrow it that it's not been fixed from the last time he borrowed it.

I cringe everytime my brother asks to borrow something...I can't open the tailgate on my pickup anymore, my brother broke it...I can't find this, that and the other anymore...my brother borrowed it...the polaris ranger no longer has a working emergency brake...yup, my brother...new pick up I bought for the farm several years ago, I can't bear to talk about that. Fortunately Van got hold of it and it looks a whole lot better than it used to. The riding mower that Van keeps running and Van bought a new engine for...he goes to get it and the tires are flat...

I gotta stop or I'll pick up the phone now and bi+ch my brother out just on general principles.

Alice

 

[flaboy-]

I guess if I was married to yous' guys sister you be mad at me. Its part of being married. You have to do stuff for your inlaws. FREE! :lol: :help:

baaahhhaaahhhhhaaaa, sure! rkm, I did that for awhile when I was married and finally told them to take a flying leap off a tall cliff after I got bad mouthed for not being willing to work in the cold freezing rain along side a major highway for more than two hours with a srew driver and 10 cent pair of pliars. All this and I was on vacation in their town working on their car.

I told my then wife, the next time they call tell them I said to call AAA WHICH THEY HAD THE WHOLE TIME!

 

[Herefordcross]

I know what you mean!!!

 

[Tod Dague]

What do most of you do for the inlaws for no charge.

I have one always wanting something for nothing and I am really getting kind of tired of it.

I put a rearend in his truck about three months ago ( he bought the parts ) I charged his A/C for him in his van ( same deal ) Put a fuel pump in his truck about a year ago ( same deal) The list goes on and on, and I got to thinking about it tonight while I was working on something and he was in watching T.V.

He is capable of doing a lot of this stuff but I think he thinks that he found an easy way out.

Now he wants me to put a transmission in his S-10 blazer and I told him 300.00 and it made him kind of mad.

He always says He will help me do something but is never around to help.

JHH

I do what I can, but I have pretty good in-laws. If the Father in-law wants help with something he wants me to help him do it unless he just doesn't know how or can't then he is there to help me.

They are always willing to help me out if they can. ;-)

 

[samm]

i am hearing what ya'll are talking about, i live it quite often, except if we need some help for an hour or so, (thats as much as your going to get from them) they expect to be paid, it can be cash or cigerettes. but you can bet they never offer to put gas back in your truck/car when you have to haul em all over the country spending your whole day doing it. or replace the tools, (big tools) that they have stolen, borrowed, lost, etc.even when you have located them in the pawn shops with thier names on the tickets. pay back any money you have been foolish enough to let them borrow. you have seen the signs in the garages that says "we dont loan tools" well we quit that and we dont lend money either.
dun has the best idea...move and dont tell anyone where you have moved to.

 

[dun]

move and dont tell anyone where you have moved to.

You can let them, but make sure it's a long ways and don;t have room for guests

dun