Sad day. . . . Am I bad?

Kathie in Thorp · Apr 8, 2012

Just went to a nephew's wedding a few weeks ago. 19 yr. + she is 18 yr. They lost their baby girl yesterday -- too little to be viable. Am not sure how I feel about this. They were both so young . . . they love each other, they are sad. I am sad for them, but also relieved, in a way. Now, they can re-start their relationship, without a big ______ (BURDEN is the totally wrong word), and get to know each other, and talk, and make plans . . . and, on my other side, babies are a blessing.

larryshoat · Apr 8, 2012

Kathie it sounds like you're just thinking things over, like we all do. I don't think that makes you bad.

Larry

Jogeephus · Apr 8, 2012

I don't think so either. My cousin has a million dollar baby. It didn't weigh pounds but ounces. Their's was not viable either but modern medicine made it that way. The child has had so many surgeries its unbelievable and must go in again next month for yet another one. She is now 12 and still cannot feed herself and cannot lay but a certain way else she will suffocate. Still has tubes in her. They are so tired and their other child feels so neglected because every hour is spent just keeping this child alive. God has a reason for taking a newborn and I think I am giving you an example of why it might just be a blessing because I assure you my cousin and her husband have only a shell of a marriage. However, I have to hand it to them they are still together even though their lives have been .... I'll be nice and say - less than perfect.

Kathie in Thorp · Apr 9, 2012

Thanks, guys. You said what I needed or wanted to hear. This may not have been an appropriate topic for the board, but I was really having some angst at the time. No further comment necessary. Just a bad, sad situation.

Nesikep · Apr 14, 2012

Kathie, you're using logic and sense, and sometimes that isn't where you get mushy feelings from. It is definitely sad, and you recognize that, but I do think their own lives will be better for it in the long run.