Question

[peg4x4]

How old does your child need to be before you are not responsable for their actions?

 

[HDRider]

Morally, or legally?

Some might think those are two different questions.

 

[branguscowgirl]

How old does your child need to be before you are not responsable for their actions?

18 legally. But you can adopt them out sooner if they really piss you off! :lol:

 

[Chris H]

How old does your child need to be before you are not responsable for their actions?

Legally, or court of public opinion? Sadly, a parent takes a lot of blame for stuff that should be on the kid.

I would say it depends on your state, whether you were still supporting the child, whether you neglected to stop the child when you could have. And then throw in a ruthless lawyer and all bets are off.

 

[CottageFarm]

IMO, it's right about the time they make a decision to act without your input. Good, bad or otherwise.
That could happen at 15 or 35. Of course the law may disagree with that if they're under 18 and it was a bad decision.

 

[dun]

Friends of ours just had their 50 year old son and his kids move in with them.

 

[Jogeephus]

For me, it was when I graduated high school. I was given a two weeks to leave. It sucked at the time but it was the best thing my father ever did for me. Had it been left up to me I'd probably still be living at home and not worth killing and a drop of my sweat would probably cure cancer. I'm a big critic of people who enable their children to be sorry because I know how I would have turned out had I not been weaned early.

 

[slick4591]

Peg~ kids in Texas are emancipated at 18. If they are at least 16 they may petition the court.

Civilly you can be held responsible up until 17. Criminally they are considered an adult at 17.

 

[kerley]

Our youngest Daughter is 38 and still living with us, she has never caused us any problems with the law. Every one has to be some place.

 

[torogmc81]

For me, it was when I graduated high school. I was given a two weeks to leave. It sucked at the time but it was the best thing my father ever did for me. Had it been left up to me I'd probably still be living at home and not worth killing and a drop of my sweat would probably cure cancer. I'm a big critic of people who enable their children to be sorry because I know how I would have turned out had I not been weaned early.

Couldn't agree more. A lot of these young adults now that are in the 20-30 year old range are still being treated by parents as if they are still kids. If the parents always enable, then most of them have a negative reaction to anyone that does treat them as an adult, AKA, accountable for themselves. Soon they turn 28 and the parents are still patting them on the back and making excuses for them showing up late to work or not showing at all. It's disgusting. I feel sorry for these young individuals, for some of them, because I put a lot of blame on the parents and they didn't give there kids much of a chance by not preparing them for this harsh world they will encounter everyday. I could go on all night about this but I'm going to stop myself from writing a book for the time being ..... all IMO .....

PS Sorry if I hurt an enabled young adults feelings with my statement, I'm sure mommy and daddy are just a phone call away with a shoulder to cry on .......

 

[chrisy]

Having problems again Peg?, here it's 18 when you become a so called adult, my last to leave was 25, although he did most things himself, no molly coddling by me, he cooked, he ironed his own clothes, I did wash them only because they were the colours I was washing and it filled the machine. He payed his way. BUT do you ever really give them up no matter how old they are you never seem to stop worrying about them, and then their children come along and some of it seems to come along again.

 

[kucala5]

All situations are different with kids. Good luck.

 

[Brute 23]

Around 10 yrs old or so. By then they know right from wrong and have to take responsibility for their actions.

At a very young age my parents let every one know if they had a problem with myself of my brother they were to take it up with us like adults. Not to say they wouldn't advise us or give their opinions but at the end of the day we had to make our choices... and accept the results. The did not speak on our behalf... or tell us where we had to be... or what we had to do.

On a side note... I know a fair amount of people who live in their own houses but are still connect to mommy and daddy by the pocket book. I also know a fair amount of people who may live under the same roof as their parents but are very independent. Just some thing to keep in mind.

 

[peg4x4]

Having problems again Peg?, here it's 18 when you become a so called adult, my last to leave was 25, although he did most things himself, no molly coddling by me, he cooked, he ironed his own clothes, I did wash them only because they were the colours I was washing and it filled the machine. He payed his way. BUT do you ever really give them up no matter how old they are you never seem to stop worrying about them, and then their children come along and some of it seems to come along again.

Mostly just "iffing"
If I'da done this would that have/have not happened..
You get older you wonder.. :???:

 

[shaz]

I encouraged my step kids to stay at home until the were really financially able. They didn't. One moved back in with us 3 times.

 

[Limomike]

Having problems again Peg?, here it's 18 when you become a so called adult, my last to leave was 25, although he did most things himself, no molly coddling by me, he cooked, he ironed his own clothes, I did wash them only because they were the colours I was washing and it filled the machine. He payed his way. BUT do you ever really give them up no matter how old they are you never seem to stop worrying about them, and then their children come along and some of it seems to come along again.

Mostly just "iffing"
If I'da done this would that have/have not happened..
You get older you wonder.. :???:

Peg, I know what you mean, but as I tell my wife (because she always brings up the" what if's" and "maybe this" type of questions. Doesnt do any good to have regrets. Gotta realize you did the best you did at the time, and gotta move on with life. People are responsible for their own actions once they reach the age of accountability.

 

[peg4x4]

Having problems again Peg?, here it's 18 when you become a so called adult, my last to leave was 25, although he did most things himself, no molly coddling by me, he cooked, he ironed his own clothes, I did wash them only because they were the colours I was washing and it filled the machine. He payed his way. BUT do you ever really give them up no matter how old they are you never seem to stop worrying about them, and then their children come along and some of it seems to come along again.

Mostly just "iffing"
If I'da done this would that have/have not happened..
You get older you wonder.. :???:

Peg, I know what you mean, but as I tell my wife (because she always brings up the" what if's" and "maybe this" type of questions. Doesnt do any good to have regrets. Gotta realize you did the best you did at the time, and gotta move on with life. People are responsible for their own actions once they reach the age of accountability.

I know,and unless I can crochet a time machine,there's nothing I can do about anything..

 

[Ryder]

How old does your child need to be before you are not responsable for their actions?

I don't understand the term "responsible for their actions".
Anybody no matter what their age can make wrong decisions and get in a jam and may need a little help.
But maybe "to help out" is not the same as "responsible for"?

Maybe it means "to take responsibility". In this sense I don't see what age has to do with it. It seems to me it is more a matter of when they are capable. Depends on the individual and age is not the real determining factor.