Have You Got Adult Kids Living at Home....

[D2Cat]

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[dun]

My wife sometimes claims she does

 

[Bigfoot]

I almost checked out, before it got started. Glad I finished, it was pretty funny. I'm not sure where the melinial generation starts. I'm guessing if you were born 1990 or later? Any way, I'm 45. As of the other day, I'm the oldest person at my job, and way way more years of experience on the job. I have a front row seat to the 20 somethings mentality. We're all in a bunch of trouble.

 

[Caustic Burno]

I was just like my dad when mine graduated you had two options
Option 1 was you pack your bags and leave.
Option 2 is I will pack your bags and you still leave.

 

[Bigfoot]

I was just like my dad when mine graduated you had two options
Option 1 was you pack your bags and leave.
Option 2 is I will pack your bags and you still leave.

My parents were lenient, you had until fall.

 

[D2Cat]

My good friend told his son after graduating, "After you leave I'm breaking your dinner plate, so don't plan on returning!"

 

[JMJ Farms]

I stayed at home till I got married at 23. But I wasn't "freeloading". I commuted to the local college. I worked a full time job, saved my money, and paid for everything except housing and a few groceries. I followed the rules just like I was 15. I cut the grass and took out the trash, etc. If we were putting up fence, or building a barn, or picking up roots for my father we never received a dime and we didn't expect it. We were taught to understand that "he dd for us and we did for him". I had respect. I had enough sense to know what a "gift" it was to have a chance to get a head start and I appreciated it. I had goals. I wanted to be self sufficient. I feel like most younger people today want to be dependent.

 

[Jogeephus]

I was just like my dad when mine graduated you had two options
Option 1 was you pack your bags and leave.
Option 2 is I will pack your bags and you still leave.

That's pretty harsh there CB. I guess I had it easy then my dad gave me two weeks. In hindsight its the best thing he ever did for me.

 

[Caustic Burno]

I was just like my dad when mine graduated you had two options
Option 1 was you pack your bags and leave.
Option 2 is I will pack your bags and you still leave.

That's pretty harsh there CB. I guess I had it easy then my dad gave me two weeks. In hindsight its the best thing he ever did for me.

I thought so also at 18 best thing that ever happened to me as well.
I was raised by a different generation where grown kids didn't stay at home.
My parents would be 102 totally different way of looking at the world.

 

[True Grit Farms]

I hope my kids never leave, their welcome as long as they follow the rules.

 

[Nesikep]

I did farm work when I was in high school, kept doing it after that too, worked hard through the summer to go to school.. If something needed doing here and there weren't enough hands, I was always here... heck, I still am

 

[Craig Miller]

My kids will be allowed to stay as long as they contribute. Ain't nothing new. That's the way it was until the last 100 years.

 

[Dave]

My parents didn't show me the door. What they did was start charging me room and board. Cash at the first of the month. I did the same for my kids.

 

[Caustic Burno]

My kids will be allowed to stay as long as they contribute. Ain't nothing new. That's the way it was until the last 100 years.

It is different people don't die like they did young from common disease had one grandma bury four before they were 18 to influenza, typhoid and one at twenty in childbirth. These old cemeteries are full of infants and kids.
The view of the world and children has changed there are not many on this board their grandparents were born in the 1870's and 1880's.
Not saying right wrong or indifferent but my parents believed you were to be learning a trade and working and ready to enter the world as they did after HS. When my parents graduated HS in Texas only went through the eleventh grade so you were even younger. College not even considered a choice a trade or craft was. Not sure when the extra grade was added I imagine during or after the war.
My great grandmother drew a confederate soldier pension so the view you have is through the glasses of your raising. Just depends on the era and the people raising you on how your rose colored glasses are tinted.
This is her obit


Funeral services for Mrs. Mahala (Little Grannie) Womack, 103, are scheduled for 3 pm Sunday at Providence Baptist church with the Rev. Frank Oswalt and the Rev. Harold Halcombe officiating. Interment will follow at the Mount Zion Cemetery.

Mrs. Womack died early Saturday morning at her residence on Route 5, where she had resided for the past 25 years. She was born January 16, 1851 in Trinity County and had spent most of her life there.

Mrs. Womack was one of the last surviving widows of veterans of the Civil War.

She was the widow of Henry H. Womack, who fought for the Confederacy during the Civil War, he joined the southern army at the age of 18. He died in 1925 at the age of 84.

Mrs. Womack often recalled the early days when Indians roamed the East Texas forests.

 

[OldCrow]

I ask those of you who are blaming the kids, is it the kids fault or the PARENTS? A child is a mere reflection of their upbringing. Children born before the 80s were required to work growing up and it was a necessity to the livelyhood of a family. It wasn't isolated, everyone was in the same boat. Now so many homes aren't dependant on a garden, farm, or physical work. They have a decent job and it isn't a requirement for their children to learn trades and do chores. So the parents don't require it because they seem to not realize the value of it or are to busy to take the time. Theire are no mothers at home there all out working while child care providers are raising our kids what ever way they please. We are totally happy with our kids learning everything they need from our public school systems and we fail to invest our time in our kids. My belief is that parents have failed.

This is a broad statement and not aimed at anyone just my take on the situation.

 

[arkie1]

I'm going to deviate the conversation a little here. I'm not sure what a "millennial" actually is defined as either but I was born in the late 80's. I grew up in house where you respected your elders and were expected to work around the place without pay or allowance or whatever you want to call it. When I was old enough to start driving a tractor I started working for a guy doing custom hay. My summers were spent in the seat everyday. My winters after school and on weekends were spent fixing fence, working cattle, bushogging etc. When I got out of school I learned a trade and got a job. I get greasy and nasty and sweat and freeze. Then I go home and do the same for myself without the pay.

That being said, everybody seems to jump on the "Let's blame the kids nowadays" bandwagon. I fully admit that younger people today are (here we go generalizing) disrespectful for the most part. They (generalizing again) don't want to work for the most part. I have very few people my age who I'd call friends. I tend to get along with folks older than myself.

Now the parenting thing is a whole other sack of worms. What I'd like to say about the topic in question "do you have kids at home" is this. When I got ready to graduate high school the economy was in the tank. The housing market was upside down. Places were laying off, not hiring. I went to a trade school under an internship with a company and over half my class got laid off before we even graduated. Today I make good money and I still struggle to get ahead. I make ends meet and live comfortable enough most of the time but having talked to guys and working with guys that are older than me I've come the conclusion that people my age don't have the opportunity that the one's before us did.

Now with that being said. I don't ask for pity. I don't expect a handout. I figure out a way to make it work. If that doesn't work I just work harder until it does. What I'd like to get at with this is, let's take a step back and look at who's running this country now...........it's not the "kids nowadays". Who caused the economy to crash? Who allowed the housing market to go upside down? The big business bail outs several years ago... who runs those companies? The congressional shutdowns... how many "kids" are in congress? More importantly who put those people into power? The "kids nowadays"? This is just my opinion on the whole thing. Take it or leave it. It's not meant to offend anybody. Just asking everybody to take a step back and reassess the situation.

 

[Cross-7]

I blame the parents
I have two sons they are successful in life
They were " my" boys
We were broke and they learned what work on was as we couldn't afford to hire things done. Out of neccecity we did things ourselves or did without.
Then the daughter came along. She is her mothers daughter and thinks I'm a Neanderthal, uncivilized.
She is a good kid, makes good grades and is loved at school, but her mother does everything for her and throws money at her like its nothing.
She doesn't have the slightest clue what the world is about. She wouldn't last 2 weeks on her own.

We have a whole world of kids just like her
When it comes crashing down it won't be pretty.

 

[dun]

I ask those of you who are blaming the kids, is it the kids fault or the PARENTS? A child is a mere reflection of their upbringing. Children born before the 80s were required to work growing up and it was a necessity to the livelyhood of a family. It wasn't isolated, everyone was in the same boat. Now so many homes aren't dependant on a garden, farm, or physical work. They have a decent job and it isn't a requirement for their children to learn trades and do chores. So the parents don't require it because they seem to not realize the value of it or are to busy to take the time. Theire are no mothers at home there all out working while child care providers are raising our kids what ever way they please. We are totally happy with our kids learning everything they need from our public school systems and we fail to invest our time in our kids. My belief is that parents have failed.

This is a broad statement and not aimed at anyone just my take on the situation.

The parents! Maybe my folks were smart, all of us kids (other than my sister) left home as soon as we could get away 17 YO for me, 18 for 1 brother because he wanted to finish HS. The other one left at 18 and went to the priest hatchery.

 

[cowboy43]

The Cartwright kids lived at home all their lives. Bonanza kids. :banana:

 

[talltimber]

I think maybe I have gotten mine closer to being raised hopefully. They are welcome to stay anytime, as long as they act like they have some sense and help out. All three have been back home at least once since leaving for college/trade school. My son just left after a two year stay last Friday. Was sad to see him go. He had a meat shop on a lease to own agreement, but couldn't get together on the purchase price. So, he went elsewhere to root him out a spot. Both girls have been back also for a while. The worst thing about them coming back is them leaving again. You get used to having them around, then we are empty nested again.