Ky hills
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This hospital experience has been a nightmare for my mother and for our family. We collectively haven't had a lot of hospital stays but a few over the years. Usually only minor instances, associated with any given stay, and certainly nothing reported to a supervisor.
This time around has been very different, I attribute some of it to Mama being unable to get up on her own and varying states of confusion due to the strokes. She had never been one to complain about her treatment and has always been overall complementary of medical staff anywhere she has been. She has repeatly told us about being handled roughly, and of being hurt by some. She cites experienced during scans of having her arm hurt from being held. She says they just grab you and throw you around. We have witnessed a nurse or tech take her hand and pull her to move her, the hand was sore and covered in a major bruise from attempts at inserting an iv. My wife called his attention at first he denied it but then apologized and proceeded to tell her how many years experience he had. A friend has been staying some overnight, and saw instances of nurses coming in and grabbing her abruptly to wake her and scaring her in the process. Some are very impatient with her in spite of knowing that she has had strokes and it takes her a bit to focus. If my wife had not been there quite a bit and prompted them she would have laid in the bed most likely. They don't want to get her to a potty chair and want to shove a bed pan under her. She is sore from not being cleaned properly. My wife had to take it upon herself to clean her, and then had to ask several times for cream to treat the sores. Last night we walked in the room to find a nurse and a tech standing over her , while she was sideways in the bed with her feet jammed against the foot board, and her head leaning down to her shoulder. While the nurse was ramming a thermometer in her mouth. She couldn't get it to work and eventually said oh it's because I just gave her water and it's not reading. The backstory is she was likely throwing that up to us for being concerned that she hadn't been given anything to drink. She is easily dehydrated and when someone isn't there to see that she drinks it can be bad for her quickly. They were going to leave her dirty arguing that she was clean. I know that they have many to care for, and don't have time for a lot of personal attention but I do think some could do better. Certainly some could be more kind and gentle, giving an explanation to her of what they are doing and by giving her time to react and try to move along with them.
This time around has been very different, I attribute some of it to Mama being unable to get up on her own and varying states of confusion due to the strokes. She had never been one to complain about her treatment and has always been overall complementary of medical staff anywhere she has been. She has repeatly told us about being handled roughly, and of being hurt by some. She cites experienced during scans of having her arm hurt from being held. She says they just grab you and throw you around. We have witnessed a nurse or tech take her hand and pull her to move her, the hand was sore and covered in a major bruise from attempts at inserting an iv. My wife called his attention at first he denied it but then apologized and proceeded to tell her how many years experience he had. A friend has been staying some overnight, and saw instances of nurses coming in and grabbing her abruptly to wake her and scaring her in the process. Some are very impatient with her in spite of knowing that she has had strokes and it takes her a bit to focus. If my wife had not been there quite a bit and prompted them she would have laid in the bed most likely. They don't want to get her to a potty chair and want to shove a bed pan under her. She is sore from not being cleaned properly. My wife had to take it upon herself to clean her, and then had to ask several times for cream to treat the sores. Last night we walked in the room to find a nurse and a tech standing over her , while she was sideways in the bed with her feet jammed against the foot board, and her head leaning down to her shoulder. While the nurse was ramming a thermometer in her mouth. She couldn't get it to work and eventually said oh it's because I just gave her water and it's not reading. The backstory is she was likely throwing that up to us for being concerned that she hadn't been given anything to drink. She is easily dehydrated and when someone isn't there to see that she drinks it can be bad for her quickly. They were going to leave her dirty arguing that she was clean. I know that they have many to care for, and don't have time for a lot of personal attention but I do think some could do better. Certainly some could be more kind and gentle, giving an explanation to her of what they are doing and by giving her time to react and try to move along with them.