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<blockquote data-quote="alisonb" data-source="post: 1469713" data-attributes="member: 13050"><p>You didn't ask the women for an opinion but looks like you got some...think I'll just chime in as well :lol: </p><p></p><p>A name identifies an individual be they male or female. You were born MM and have lived and built up a reputation as MM which you can be proud of by the sounds of it.</p><p></p><p>I do believe that you should not be swayed by others opinions, the decision is <strong>entirely</strong> yours to make. I don't refer to your accomplishments or the inconveniences of a name change but to how you feel 'personally and emotionally' about relinquishing 'your' name.</p><p>A marriage is a partnership of two individuals, to love and respect and have a great future together.</p><p>Perhaps your fiance needs to see the difference between tradition that comes along with marriage and the meaning of marriage itself. Your future hubby's words concern me a little, he may be a great guy and all but is certainly not respecting your feelings in this matter and it would seem that he is making it all about 'him'. </p><p><em>"Enter the future Mr. MM's opinion. He feels it signifies not wanting to be part of "us", that everyone will look down on him for the rest of our lives because his wife doesn't think highly enough of him or respect him enough to take his last name, that refusing to do so is disrespectful".</em></p><p>Whatever happened to a level playing field, would he place himself in your shoes just for a moment and think about changing his name or how you feel?? </p><p></p><p>It would seem that he needs some convincing that you do think highly of him without changing your name, that two individuals make an 'us' and that everyone will look 'up' to the two of you for what you have achieved ;-) . </p><p></p><p>You either hold on to your identity or become someone's wife... </p><p></p><p>All the best, we will still call you MM <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="alisonb, post: 1469713, member: 13050"] You didn't ask the women for an opinion but looks like you got some...think I'll just chime in as well :lol: A name identifies an individual be they male or female. You were born MM and have lived and built up a reputation as MM which you can be proud of by the sounds of it. I do believe that you should not be swayed by others opinions, the decision is [b]entirely[/b] yours to make. I don't refer to your accomplishments or the inconveniences of a name change but to how you feel 'personally and emotionally' about relinquishing 'your' name. A marriage is a partnership of two individuals, to love and respect and have a great future together. Perhaps your fiance needs to see the difference between tradition that comes along with marriage and the meaning of marriage itself. Your future hubby's words concern me a little, he may be a great guy and all but is certainly not respecting your feelings in this matter and it would seem that he is making it all about 'him'. [i]"Enter the future Mr. MM's opinion. He feels it signifies not wanting to be part of "us", that everyone will look down on him for the rest of our lives because his wife doesn't think highly enough of him or respect him enough to take his last name, that refusing to do so is disrespectful".[/i] Whatever happened to a level playing field, would he place himself in your shoes just for a moment and think about changing his name or how you feel?? It would seem that he needs some convincing that you do think highly of him without changing your name, that two individuals make an 'us' and that everyone will look 'up' to the two of you for what you have achieved ;-) . You either hold on to your identity or become someone's wife... All the best, we will still call you MM :D [/QUOTE]
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