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<blockquote data-quote="Jogeephus" data-source="post: 1049739" data-attributes="member: 4362"><p>Those are my sentiments exactly. Where are the parents? We have created a welfare system that rewards single mothers and penalizes the poor families who are trying to make a go of it.</p><p></p><p>A few years ago I took a young black boy under my wing and mentored him. I thought the world of him. He had so much potential. He was from a typical black family here - if you can call it a family. Mother gone. Father only God knows where. Raised primarily by his grandmother but she instructed him well and he was bright, honest and a hard worker. He ended up getting a full ride to college and I started helping him because I knew he needed money. What I gave him wasn't charity but his return for his efforts far outweighed what he put in to it I assure you. </p><p></p><p>After his freshman year I noticed his girlfriend at home began being a lot more clingy towards him. His own mother would snap at him for nothing. I told him as I would my own son that he should be careful and that some people would not like to see him grow. He just chuckled and said there wasn't anything to worry about.</p><p></p><p>A month after he entered his junior year in college his girlfriend turned up pregnant. Next thing he does is quits college and takes a job as a laborer. He moves back in with his mother and his girlfriend and their baby is staying at her mother's house - gov't sponsored. When asked how things are going he said that things are not nearly as tough as people made it out to be.</p><p></p><p>Now he has found another girlfriend at his job and she is expecting anytime but they will not marry because this will mess up the bennies. I guess in a way, it couldn't be that hard when the government and the grandparents are taking care of the children and you don't have rent, utilities or food to buy. Your lifestyle is subsidized by the taxpayer and the family - if you have one that cares enough to do it.</p><p></p><p>Though I still love this young man as my own I am totally disappointed in him but I can sortof see where he is coming from. He and his family are in the welfare trap. He came so close to breaking free of it but I don't think he realized what freedom he gave up by not sticking to his goals. But this is all he knows. This is normal. And his mother is so happy now that she is a grandparent.</p><p></p><p>We can construct all the bridges in the world to see people get out of this mindset but at the end of the day it is their choice. Unfortunately, many of these people look at me with resentment because they think I am somehow responsible for their dilemma. I see this happening every day. I am immersed in this culture and its really sad. It will make you angry especially when you see the look of contempt in their eyes and shear hatred. </p><p></p><p>Many will think I am wrong but I truly believe the only way we are going to stop this culture from sapping the life blood out of this country is by making it so painful and so hard that only a fool would choose not to use the bridge to get out the trap. But those same people who would think I am wrong I suspect would get all over me if I put six cows on an acre of land without the means to feed them. I have always felt, if you can't feed them then you have no business breeding them. But I know this isn't PC and all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jogeephus, post: 1049739, member: 4362"] Those are my sentiments exactly. Where are the parents? We have created a welfare system that rewards single mothers and penalizes the poor families who are trying to make a go of it. A few years ago I took a young black boy under my wing and mentored him. I thought the world of him. He had so much potential. He was from a typical black family here - if you can call it a family. Mother gone. Father only God knows where. Raised primarily by his grandmother but she instructed him well and he was bright, honest and a hard worker. He ended up getting a full ride to college and I started helping him because I knew he needed money. What I gave him wasn't charity but his return for his efforts far outweighed what he put in to it I assure you. After his freshman year I noticed his girlfriend at home began being a lot more clingy towards him. His own mother would snap at him for nothing. I told him as I would my own son that he should be careful and that some people would not like to see him grow. He just chuckled and said there wasn't anything to worry about. A month after he entered his junior year in college his girlfriend turned up pregnant. Next thing he does is quits college and takes a job as a laborer. He moves back in with his mother and his girlfriend and their baby is staying at her mother's house - gov't sponsored. When asked how things are going he said that things are not nearly as tough as people made it out to be. Now he has found another girlfriend at his job and she is expecting anytime but they will not marry because this will mess up the bennies. I guess in a way, it couldn't be that hard when the government and the grandparents are taking care of the children and you don't have rent, utilities or food to buy. Your lifestyle is subsidized by the taxpayer and the family - if you have one that cares enough to do it. Though I still love this young man as my own I am totally disappointed in him but I can sortof see where he is coming from. He and his family are in the welfare trap. He came so close to breaking free of it but I don't think he realized what freedom he gave up by not sticking to his goals. But this is all he knows. This is normal. And his mother is so happy now that she is a grandparent. We can construct all the bridges in the world to see people get out of this mindset but at the end of the day it is their choice. Unfortunately, many of these people look at me with resentment because they think I am somehow responsible for their dilemma. I see this happening every day. I am immersed in this culture and its really sad. It will make you angry especially when you see the look of contempt in their eyes and shear hatred. Many will think I am wrong but I truly believe the only way we are going to stop this culture from sapping the life blood out of this country is by making it so painful and so hard that only a fool would choose not to use the bridge to get out the trap. But those same people who would think I am wrong I suspect would get all over me if I put six cows on an acre of land without the means to feed them. I have always felt, if you can't feed them then you have no business breeding them. But I know this isn't PC and all. [/QUOTE]
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