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<blockquote data-quote="cow pollinater" data-source="post: 1062571" data-attributes="member: 14661"><p>I've seen quite a few family cattle businesses, mostly dairy but a few beef, with this same conflict. I've even had two customers who dropped me and wanted me to go do their kids place instead so that they knew at least that part of the program would work the way they wanted it to. What I have come to understand over time is that what the younger generation sees as stubborn, old-fashioned, antiquated, backwards is often what the older generation sees as safe, predictable, easy enough that there is little risk(and often understanding that the reward will not be as big) so that they don't have to risk seeing their kids fail if a big sweeping change doesn't pay off. I see it as an overabundance of caution and care on the older generations part.</p><p> I think the key to reaching an agreement is to recognize that you are both trying to reach the same goal. You have different ways of going about it but if you focus on the end result then it's working on a problem together and having minor differences of opinion along the way instead of butting heads over little stuff. You could maybe try a challenge like do half my way and half yours and bet a six pack on the results and make it fun but if you're both butting heads over every little thing then even the simple stuff that you would otherwise agree on will get all #@!$ed up as you're both so busy trying to be right that you lose sight of the goal and start taking sides on whatever battle you can find.</p><p>The most under asked question in humanity is "Why?" Instead of just being mad that people don't see everything your way, ask why they want to do it the way they want to do it. If it doesn't make sense, keep asking why until it does. If it never makes sense to you then it probably doesn't to them either and by then you can slip in enough logic to get your way or you'll understand their logic enough to go along with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cow pollinater, post: 1062571, member: 14661"] I've seen quite a few family cattle businesses, mostly dairy but a few beef, with this same conflict. I've even had two customers who dropped me and wanted me to go do their kids place instead so that they knew at least that part of the program would work the way they wanted it to. What I have come to understand over time is that what the younger generation sees as stubborn, old-fashioned, antiquated, backwards is often what the older generation sees as safe, predictable, easy enough that there is little risk(and often understanding that the reward will not be as big) so that they don't have to risk seeing their kids fail if a big sweeping change doesn't pay off. I see it as an overabundance of caution and care on the older generations part. I think the key to reaching an agreement is to recognize that you are both trying to reach the same goal. You have different ways of going about it but if you focus on the end result then it's working on a problem together and having minor differences of opinion along the way instead of butting heads over little stuff. You could maybe try a challenge like do half my way and half yours and bet a six pack on the results and make it fun but if you're both butting heads over every little thing then even the simple stuff that you would otherwise agree on will get all #@!$ed up as you're both so busy trying to be right that you lose sight of the goal and start taking sides on whatever battle you can find. The most under asked question in humanity is "Why?" Instead of just being mad that people don't see everything your way, ask why they want to do it the way they want to do it. If it doesn't make sense, keep asking why until it does. If it never makes sense to you then it probably doesn't to them either and by then you can slip in enough logic to get your way or you'll understand their logic enough to go along with it. [/QUOTE]
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