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<blockquote data-quote="Brute 23" data-source="post: 1744250" data-attributes="member: 6291"><p>Sure hate to hear that. It definitely doesn't sound like a good situation. Hope it works out for you. </p><p></p><p>I went through some thing simular at one point. My family did so much together that there were not very good boundaries. It never came to blows but was real close on multiple occasions. Me going out on my own and doing my own thing helped form boundaries. For several years I did nothing with them. </p><p></p><p>Now, I do help with certain things at their request because they need the help as they get up in age. My dad helps me with some of my business stuff, also. We treat it like business though. You negotiate the deal ahead of time and you get paid for your work like any one else. A lot of people will say that's not right but it has really helped our relationship and maintaining healthy boundaries. There are no carrots dangled, no strings attached, no "I owe you's" and no scorecards. </p><p></p><p>Not sure if it will help you but maybe over time if things heal it could be an alternative option.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Brute 23, post: 1744250, member: 6291"] Sure hate to hear that. It definitely doesn't sound like a good situation. Hope it works out for you. I went through some thing simular at one point. My family did so much together that there were not very good boundaries. It never came to blows but was real close on multiple occasions. Me going out on my own and doing my own thing helped form boundaries. For several years I did nothing with them. Now, I do help with certain things at their request because they need the help as they get up in age. My dad helps me with some of my business stuff, also. We treat it like business though. You negotiate the deal ahead of time and you get paid for your work like any one else. A lot of people will say that's not right but it has really helped our relationship and maintaining healthy boundaries. There are no carrots dangled, no strings attached, no "I owe you's" and no scorecards. Not sure if it will help you but maybe over time if things heal it could be an alternative option. [/QUOTE]
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