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<blockquote data-quote="rockridgecattle" data-source="post: 844550" data-attributes="member: 6198"><p>As a female who had a rough childhood with abuse both emotional and physical (beatings), i can kinda understand where your wife is coming from. Here are a few insights which might help.</p><p>Even though i am so angry at him, really my anger is not at him. And even if i say get away, I really need that hug.</p><p>and the big one is, and i think it is with most women, we have that conversation planned in our heads when we want to chat about something important. We assume what our husbands will say and have answers ready. (its why most men feel ambushed when the conversation happens...we've had time to plan it out) Before the husband even hears the "something to chat about" we are already upset cause we did not get the anticipated result...all in our heads mind you. The problem is women like us who have has rough childhoods, the thoughts going through our heads about the anticipated conversation take a turn down the wrong road and we get our danders in a real knot.</p><p></p><p>That planning how the conversation goes has something to do with the amount of words men and women use. By the time the husband gets home from work, he has already used up his 5000 average quota of words for the day. For most women the average quota is something like 25 000 words aday. So when the husband is just getting home all words used, the wife is just getting started :lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rockridgecattle, post: 844550, member: 6198"] As a female who had a rough childhood with abuse both emotional and physical (beatings), i can kinda understand where your wife is coming from. Here are a few insights which might help. Even though i am so angry at him, really my anger is not at him. And even if i say get away, I really need that hug. and the big one is, and i think it is with most women, we have that conversation planned in our heads when we want to chat about something important. We assume what our husbands will say and have answers ready. (its why most men feel ambushed when the conversation happens...we've had time to plan it out) Before the husband even hears the "something to chat about" we are already upset cause we did not get the anticipated result...all in our heads mind you. The problem is women like us who have has rough childhoods, the thoughts going through our heads about the anticipated conversation take a turn down the wrong road and we get our danders in a real knot. That planning how the conversation goes has something to do with the amount of words men and women use. By the time the husband gets home from work, he has already used up his 5000 average quota of words for the day. For most women the average quota is something like 25 000 words aday. So when the husband is just getting home all words used, the wife is just getting started :lol [/QUOTE]
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