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<blockquote data-quote="herofan" data-source="post: 1495234" data-attributes="member: 17843"><p>I had a chance to visit with my friend yesterday. It's been a while since the accident, and he has gotten a grip on things and seems to be doing well now. We are close and can talk about anything, so I asked him to explain his change of attitude in work since his accident. He told me before that there would be some changes if he could get back on his feet and have some kind of normalcy mainly in spending more time with his family and not working all the time. I told him that I realize he could have looked back and thought his life was just fine the way it was and was anxious to get back to living just like he was. I asked if he could explain and what made him make the decision to change.</p><p></p><p>He said it might be difficult to put it all in words, but he had had a lot of time to think since he's not been busy. He said it might sound crazy, but he felt like he had actually gotten to know his wife, kids, and grandkids better since the accident. He said there have been times when something would come up about them and he would have to say, "oh, I didn't know that." Then he wondered how he could have been so busy that he didn't notice certain things about his own family. </p><p></p><p>He said before that if he came in a few hours earlier than usual and just sat around the house, he actually felt guilty that he was just wasting time. He said it's like his brain was revved up, but his body was in neutral, so that felt weird. The only way he knew to solve that was get back to work, and he said that's how everybody else seemed to be living. He said now that he looked back, he didn't know why the heck he felt guilty. He said that those thoughts seemed crazy now. It wasn't like he or anyone in his family was doing without anything or that someone else's check was having to keep him up. He said now that he's forced to just sit around, he doesn't feel guilty because he realizes it's out of his control, and he wonders why he felt like every waking moment had to be filled with work before. </p><p> </p><p>He said he and his wife took a vacation from time to time, but looking back, even that was a big job. He said in order to feel like they were enjoying themselves, they had to go on a big trip that took effort, and they usually came back worn out. Before, it's like everything had to be a busy task in order to feel like it was worthwhile. Now, he says he finds that sitting on the back porch at night with a small fire and chatting with his friends and family is wonderful. He wonders why he didn't recognize that before.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="herofan, post: 1495234, member: 17843"] I had a chance to visit with my friend yesterday. It’s been a while since the accident, and he has gotten a grip on things and seems to be doing well now. We are close and can talk about anything, so I asked him to explain his change of attitude in work since his accident. He told me before that there would be some changes if he could get back on his feet and have some kind of normalcy mainly in spending more time with his family and not working all the time. I told him that I realize he could have looked back and thought his life was just fine the way it was and was anxious to get back to living just like he was. I asked if he could explain and what made him make the decision to change. He said it might be difficult to put it all in words, but he had had a lot of time to think since he’s not been busy. He said it might sound crazy, but he felt like he had actually gotten to know his wife, kids, and grandkids better since the accident. He said there have been times when something would come up about them and he would have to say, “oh, I didn’t know that.” Then he wondered how he could have been so busy that he didn’t notice certain things about his own family. He said before that if he came in a few hours earlier than usual and just sat around the house, he actually felt guilty that he was just wasting time. He said it’s like his brain was revved up, but his body was in neutral, so that felt weird. The only way he knew to solve that was get back to work, and he said that’s how everybody else seemed to be living. He said now that he looked back, he didn’t know why the heck he felt guilty. He said that those thoughts seemed crazy now. It wasn’t like he or anyone in his family was doing without anything or that someone else’s check was having to keep him up. He said now that he’s forced to just sit around, he doesn’t feel guilty because he realizes it’s out of his control, and he wonders why he felt like every waking moment had to be filled with work before. He said he and his wife took a vacation from time to time, but looking back, even that was a big job. He said in order to feel like they were enjoying themselves, they had to go on a big trip that took effort, and they usually came back worn out. Before, it's like everything had to be a busy task in order to feel like it was worthwhile. Now, he says he finds that sitting on the back porch at night with a small fire and chatting with his friends and family is wonderful. He wonders why he didn’t recognize that before. [/QUOTE]
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