Jogeephus
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Will try to keep this as general as possible so if there is some vagueness in the post I apologize but I don't want to get to specific for privacy reasons.
Someone I know was having problems with their husband who turned out to be very selfish and greedy. During her last days she made some legal changes to her insurance and with her will leaving her insurance policy to me and put me as Trustee over her estate and didn't leave anything to her husband.
As you would expect there was quite a fuss from her husband and he tried several times to have the Will voided so he could get his hands on the money - "for care of their son". This was a headache but he only made noise and wasted a lot of time and things quieted down once he married a woman who gets a big check from the government each year. Needless to say he will not speak to me.
Time goes on and her son grows up and gets married to a girl I didn't exactly approve of but I'm not the one who has to sleep with the creature so it is none of my business. Though the insurance money was left to me, I felt his mother's true intent was to keep this money out of the hands of this boy's father since the boy was underage. With this in mind, I invested the money for him and treated it as if it were his. He is a good kid and with his marriage his work history I felt it a good time to give him this insurance money as a wedding present to help him buy a home for his new family - and told him I knew his mother wanted him to have this. At this time we got to talking about his mother and I let it slip that there was more money being held in trust for him that he would receive once he got over fool's hill on his 40th birthday. In hindsight this was a mistake but at the time it seemed it was the right thing to do.
Anyhow, time goes on, few years pass and his wife has an affair just as I suspected the tramp would. He loves her dearly and is trying to work things out and her boyfriend has moved to another town and they seem to be doing alright even though she has yet to tell him she is sorry. Needless to say I still don't like or trust her.
Last week he made a call to an attorney asking if he could break the trust and get the money now since they now have a new baby and could use the money. On top of this, he mentioned that he was thinking of selling his home and he and his wife both quitting their jobs and moving to a town about two hours away where it just so happens his wife's x-boyfriend lives. It would be a lateral move for him and she would quit a high paying job and be jobless which would mean a reduction in their total gross income hence the need for the money - and its a good bit.
While I may be a bit jaded in the way I see things I think this is crazy and I think his love for this adulterous tramp is making him blind to what is going on. But I am admittedly biased so hence the post.
So do I stand firm and make an enemies and adhere strictly to the wishes of the Trust and fight this in court or should I cave and make my life simpler by doing what is politically correct? Actually I know what I'll do as did his mother which I suspect is why she trusted me in this matter. I just wonder how much traction this will get when it gets in the murky cesspool we call our judicial system. At the moment I am willing to stand at the gates of he77 to keep this from happening but I say this enjoying the ignorant luxury of not knowing how hot it will be at the gates of he77.
Someone I know was having problems with their husband who turned out to be very selfish and greedy. During her last days she made some legal changes to her insurance and with her will leaving her insurance policy to me and put me as Trustee over her estate and didn't leave anything to her husband.
As you would expect there was quite a fuss from her husband and he tried several times to have the Will voided so he could get his hands on the money - "for care of their son". This was a headache but he only made noise and wasted a lot of time and things quieted down once he married a woman who gets a big check from the government each year. Needless to say he will not speak to me.
Time goes on and her son grows up and gets married to a girl I didn't exactly approve of but I'm not the one who has to sleep with the creature so it is none of my business. Though the insurance money was left to me, I felt his mother's true intent was to keep this money out of the hands of this boy's father since the boy was underage. With this in mind, I invested the money for him and treated it as if it were his. He is a good kid and with his marriage his work history I felt it a good time to give him this insurance money as a wedding present to help him buy a home for his new family - and told him I knew his mother wanted him to have this. At this time we got to talking about his mother and I let it slip that there was more money being held in trust for him that he would receive once he got over fool's hill on his 40th birthday. In hindsight this was a mistake but at the time it seemed it was the right thing to do.
Anyhow, time goes on, few years pass and his wife has an affair just as I suspected the tramp would. He loves her dearly and is trying to work things out and her boyfriend has moved to another town and they seem to be doing alright even though she has yet to tell him she is sorry. Needless to say I still don't like or trust her.
Last week he made a call to an attorney asking if he could break the trust and get the money now since they now have a new baby and could use the money. On top of this, he mentioned that he was thinking of selling his home and he and his wife both quitting their jobs and moving to a town about two hours away where it just so happens his wife's x-boyfriend lives. It would be a lateral move for him and she would quit a high paying job and be jobless which would mean a reduction in their total gross income hence the need for the money - and its a good bit.
While I may be a bit jaded in the way I see things I think this is crazy and I think his love for this adulterous tramp is making him blind to what is going on. But I am admittedly biased so hence the post.
So do I stand firm and make an enemies and adhere strictly to the wishes of the Trust and fight this in court or should I cave and make my life simpler by doing what is politically correct? Actually I know what I'll do as did his mother which I suspect is why she trusted me in this matter. I just wonder how much traction this will get when it gets in the murky cesspool we call our judicial system. At the moment I am willing to stand at the gates of he77 to keep this from happening but I say this enjoying the ignorant luxury of not knowing how hot it will be at the gates of he77.
just leave that door open ... mans pride is hard to heal after this is over
