HOSS
Well-known member
Ok…..I have a question to ask from all of the combat veterans on CT. Have you had any issues coping with the mental scars of combat? As most of ya'll know I am an Airborne combat veteran of Panama, Desert Storm and also Operation Iraqi Freedom. In the past I have never had any reason to think that I might have any issues coping. I never really had the common gripped fear episodes, flashbacks, major regrets, nightmares etc. Of course I have had memories bad and good. Things that remind me of things such as sights, sounds and smells as well. I don't really enjoy talking about it per say though I don't shy away from it unless it is in the company of my wife who does not want to relive those days at all.
I don't know if it is that I am softening as I get middle aged or what but I find myself brooding over certain incidents or events that I initiated or was part of. I guess you might say that I regret certain things or I second guess actions that I took years ago even though at the time I was very comfortable with those actions and actually elated that I lived through it. I find myself wondering how those other 20 year old enemy combatants would have turned out if they had survived. Would he be like me with a wife, kids, maybe a farm as well? I am not necessarily depressed or anxious about those events it just seems to be lately I ruminate on it more. I don't want it to turn into anything unhealthy. I have often wondered if I never really accepted those things as settled and ignored them. I am definitely not unstable, suicidal, angry, abusive or any of the things that seem to make the headlines. Maybe I am just being too introspective or maybe that is normal. I am curious mostly as to if the Nam vets on this site experienced the same thing and if this goes away. My father was a special forces operator in Nam (SOG) and he does not talk about it at all unless we are alone and he brings the subject up. He would circumvent the question if asked anyway.
I don't know if it is that I am softening as I get middle aged or what but I find myself brooding over certain incidents or events that I initiated or was part of. I guess you might say that I regret certain things or I second guess actions that I took years ago even though at the time I was very comfortable with those actions and actually elated that I lived through it. I find myself wondering how those other 20 year old enemy combatants would have turned out if they had survived. Would he be like me with a wife, kids, maybe a farm as well? I am not necessarily depressed or anxious about those events it just seems to be lately I ruminate on it more. I don't want it to turn into anything unhealthy. I have often wondered if I never really accepted those things as settled and ignored them. I am definitely not unstable, suicidal, angry, abusive or any of the things that seem to make the headlines. Maybe I am just being too introspective or maybe that is normal. I am curious mostly as to if the Nam vets on this site experienced the same thing and if this goes away. My father was a special forces operator in Nam (SOG) and he does not talk about it at all unless we are alone and he brings the subject up. He would circumvent the question if asked anyway.