Ashley, just a couple of thoughts/questions.
When you punished your horse for kicking your dad, were you standing right there and punished him immediately? Or, did you punish him a few minutes later? I think if we're advising a newbie on how to work with a horse, that it's best this is clarified.
A thought about your horse kicking at the lunge whip. My mare did some mild kicking at the lunge whip in the round pen, and my horse trainer friends recommended having a very experienced person work with her with ropes, so she would learn not to kick at anything that happened to touch her. I asked if I could learn to do this, and they strongly recommended that I not. We'll have them do the work with her this spring. I think the same training would teach a horse not to kick at people, too, and might be a good solution to your problem.
> Hi
Congrats! But she's right.
> It isn't going to be easy AT ALL!
> A few months ago I myself
> purchased my first horse. He was a
> 2 1/2 year old Thoroughbred
> gelding that didn't even know how
> to lift his feet. He bit, he
> kicked, he didn't lead well. I had
> it all under control and got
> things going for about a month or
> two. and about a week ago he
> started rearing, biting, and last
> night he kicked my dad in the leg.
> That's another thing she's right
> about. Don't spoil him. Use a firm
> hand AT THE RIGHT TIME. You have
> to become a horse, basically. When
> they do something mean, do it
> back. Don't let them push you.
> Last night after he kicked my dad
> I went in there and whipped his
> leg as hard as I could. (on the
> fleshy spot so it wasn't hitting
> the bone" Today he lunged
> PERFECTLY (something I have been
> working on but couldn't get him to
> do). He did it better than most
> horses that have been doing it
> forever. And usually he kicks at
> the whip. But tonight he didn't.
> He also stopped biting again. So
> see, if you balance it out, you'll
> have a great friend in your horse.
> If possible, find some horses that
> you can watch while they're in a
> herd. Figure out which one is
> boss, and copy it's actions with
> your own horse. Just make sure
> that if you need to correct them,
> as soon as they stop doing
> whatever bad thing they're doing,
> drop it and go back to making
> friends. Much like another horse
> would. It has it's up and down
> moments. It goes back and forth
> from being the most wonderful
> thing, to being a nightmare. But
> the wonderful parts of it are
> worth all the nightmare parts.
> haha I'd recommend buying training
> tapes (such as Monty Robberts,
> Parelli) and studying them.
> they're kind of expensive, but you
> can also rent at most tack stores.
> And find a trainer that is
> experienced and a firm beliver in
> natural horsemanship. See if YOU
> can train the horse under their
> guidence. That's what I'm doing
> with mine. I'm having the trainer
> work with him 4-5 days out of the
> week. And then I'll go 2 days and
> see what he's learning, and learn
> how to teach it. That way your
> horse will know, and learn to
> listen to YOU, not just the
> trainer. Hope this helps :-D