My son went to see his best friend that is 16 that moved away about 2 years ago. They try to see each other on the long holidays and each summer.
During this visit my son found his 16 year old friend basically living on his own. His dad (functional alcoholic that does still have a job) and his mom had separated. This wouldn't be a problem other than both of them left and left my son's friend alone in the house. The only piece of furniture left was the boy's bed. There was no food to be found in the house. After one day, my son knew it was a bad situation and came home. His friend tries to stay at other peoples house as long as they will have him.
I couldn't find the parents' number so I called the boy's uncle. They tracked down the dad that confirmed everything my son said. The father stated that he thought that the mother was taking care of him. The mother is a manic drepressed woman that just up and leaves for months at a time. He also stated he doesn't think he can take care of him until he gets his drinking under control. However, he told them that he would allow his son to come live with us.
As angry as I am with the parents, this kid is a good kid and deserves a chance to finish high school without having to steal food to eat. Currently, he is working before and after school to cover his expenses, but is barely surviving in high school. I don't know why his father or mother aren't financial supplementing him, but when he asked for help at school they told him that if they reported his parent's he would become a foster kid. Something he doesn't want any part of.
We are thinking about allowing him to live with us. He basically does every summer anyway.
Does anyone have advice or a strong con as to why I shouldn't let him move in?
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During this visit my son found his 16 year old friend basically living on his own. His dad (functional alcoholic that does still have a job) and his mom had separated. This wouldn't be a problem other than both of them left and left my son's friend alone in the house. The only piece of furniture left was the boy's bed. There was no food to be found in the house. After one day, my son knew it was a bad situation and came home. His friend tries to stay at other peoples house as long as they will have him.
I couldn't find the parents' number so I called the boy's uncle. They tracked down the dad that confirmed everything my son said. The father stated that he thought that the mother was taking care of him. The mother is a manic drepressed woman that just up and leaves for months at a time. He also stated he doesn't think he can take care of him until he gets his drinking under control. However, he told them that he would allow his son to come live with us.
As angry as I am with the parents, this kid is a good kid and deserves a chance to finish high school without having to steal food to eat. Currently, he is working before and after school to cover his expenses, but is barely surviving in high school. I don't know why his father or mother aren't financial supplementing him, but when he asked for help at school they told him that if they reported his parent's he would become a foster kid. Something he doesn't want any part of.
We are thinking about allowing him to live with us. He basically does every summer anyway.
Does anyone have advice or a strong con as to why I shouldn't let him move in?
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