rkm
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Victoria and Skyline, excellent posts.
GMN":164sctev said:I was watching this show the other night on PBS about kids and technology, and although I find the internet useful, I do believe it is not always the best thing for kids, and this show was like WOW, these kids need to get a life and get rid of their computers/cell phones, etc... I think MYSpace, and certain other sites are addicting to kids and cause them problems, did you all ever hear of cyber bullying? It blew me away, just how many kids get bullied via the internet, and sadly some actually kill themselves over it, and then the parents wonder why? I do think some parents are clueless, try to be their kids friends, when they need to be parents, set boundaries, have rules and discipline, and interact with their kids, not let them do whatever, wherever.
GMN
rkm":29gph7ja said:The problem is that we now have a couple of generations with mom not at home. The family as we knew it has been destroyed. Can we have the family values that we remember ever again?
rkm":3bweub47 said:The problem is that we now have a couple of generations with mom not at home. The family as we knew it has been destroyed. Can we have the family values that we remember ever again?
My wife has taught for 27 years and I get the same stories that you do, they have gotten much worse in the last few years.Crowderfarms":2te87crg said:My Wife started teaching school this past year, and after I get in from work we always catch up on each others day while she's cooking Supper.
Some of the stories she tells me about what's going on in her young students lives, really throws me for a loop. Mom's in Jail, Dad's in Jail, Both are in Jail. Grandma's and Grandpa's raising these young uns' Aunts, Uncles having custody.The mental and physical abuse these kids endure, the uncertainty about not when they'll be picked up from School but IF someone will show up. It's a crying shame these kids aren't getting their just right to grow up in a normal environment, with loving, caring Parents/Parent.This is a Country School, not the inner city. What is happening? where has everything gone wrong? I went to Elementary School in the very late 60's and early 70's, and dont remember a single case of anyone being raised or living without their Mom and dad, unless there had been a Divorce involved, and that was a rarity.What are we going to do as far as having any kind of a future when we get old? Seems families are disentegrating.Guess my Wife and I are doing something right...Raising our kids straight laced and respectful, and staying together, as a Family.The way we were brought up.
Any Thoughts?
MikeC":2t8uf3b6 said:The root of the problem is that too many irresponsible people are having kids in the first place.
Eugenics...........anyone?
CKC1586":10qedeo7 said:rkm":10qedeo7 said:The problem is that we now have a couple of generations with mom not at home. The family as we knew it has been destroyed. Can we have the family values that we remember ever again?
I doubt it. There are too many outside influences. Whether Mom is home or not. TV commercials alone are a nightmare. I don't particularly think it is appropriate for some of those products to be advertised on TV. I don't like my little grand daughter asking me what is Viagra, what is a tampon, why is that lady in her underwear, what is herpes, etc etc. and these are aired during the day. What they see and hear at school is out of our control, the school bus is another issue. On and on. Look at the crap they put on the news! I don't care if Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Britney Spears or whoever is in or out of rehab or who she is sleeping with and certainly don't think it should be on the 6:00 news. Don't they have something better to report? I wouldn't let my kids watch the Simpsons because it was so disrespectful. Look at the crap that is marketed toward kids. Have you tuned into Saturday morning cartoons?? They need to be screened before you let the little ones watch, in my opinion.
Take it easy on single Moms. There are just too many of us that were put in that situation through no fault of our own. Sometimes stuff happens. You pick yourself up dust yourself off and do the best you can. I was lucky I had my Mom and Dad for my support system (moral NOT financial so don't go there) and thank the good lord my Dad was able to be a strong male influence for my son. We had some bumps but made it through. They are productive citizens today.
So, I guess we as grand parents have a big responsibility too. Be involved in their lives and be as positive an influence as we can. Those of you that are raising your grand kids, I take my hat off to you and wish you all the luck and blessings possible.
Lammie":kj1ko20c said:This goes way beyond whether or not mom works. We need to stand up and take back childhood for our children and those to come. Let them be kids. Let them be innocent. Let them play. Don't force our sick, sad world take away our kids.
backhoeboogie":37t7ka27 said:I keep reading with interest and I keep biting my tongue. There is so much rambling I want to do.
Everyone of you have good points, and I appreciate you for sharing the experiences.
Keep in mind that you could wind up like me, raising a grandchild. You didn't "plan" this. You had no control over it. You just have to suck it up and do what's right. I wouldn't have it any other way. You will get very attached to the little boogers. You will have much more patience (atleast I do) with the grandbabies that you had when you were younger. You won't have 50 hours a week to devote to farming part time any more and your whole life will change.
The old addage of spoiling them and sending them home won't apply. Other than that, its wonderful.
GMN":1j4wpmp4 said:Go ahead and do some rambling.....thats what we are here for.
Are you the sole provider for your grandchild or are the parents still involved in some of the raising?
GMN