boondocks
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just dropping in to say hello. It has been a long time since I've been on. Tonight was 19 months since my son/only child died and it has been a very difficult time (understatement). I am very lucky to have a good hubby. I have been told by other parents who lost a child that within 5 years, we should not be surprised to have many of our family and friends drift away. We have noticed that many people are uncomfortable talking about our son; a few neighbors we were friends with avoided us for many months until we went out of our way to reach out to them. It seems like we have rituals for funerals but then no one knows what to do after that. We are every parents' worst nightmare, a reminder that the most dreaded thing CAN happen. Grief cooties, I guess (sorry, my go-to coping mechanism is dark humor). We have been lucky to have a few of our son's close friends stay in touch. We had planned a memorial hike in Canada this month--to his favorite place, Yoho--but this dang pandemic derailed that. We still have our cows but to be honest, it is just going through the motions. DIdn't help that we lost our first 2 calves this spring and then had an abysmal AI conception rate. (Stay away from GAR Phoenix). What is everyone else up to? What have I missed? I see y'all are still talking politics and getting threads locked--good on ya, it made me smile.