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<blockquote data-quote="rockridgecattle" data-source="post: 637154" data-attributes="member: 6198"><p>1. never go to bed angry with each other</p><p>2. listen and hear each other.</p><p>3. this may sound stupid, but agree on a $ amount that is okay for each other to spend without discussing it. Not including bills and groceries,... the extras. Hubby and i agreed on $75.00. In 15 1/2 years of marriage he went over the 75.00 only once, last christmas and bought himself a TV. Me i am a tightwad so $75 is hard to do.</p><p>4. The first two years will be tough in adjustments to each other even if you lived together before marriage. It's those idiosincrities that brought us together will now tear us apart kind of thing. As well, marriage proof your marriage cause it's a documented fact that year 5, 7,11, 13 are difficult years for some reason.</p><p>5. BIG ONE</p><p>If you family farm, inlaws have their place and your place is with your bride, visa versa. Stand up for your wife right off the bat. Don't let it go. If she feels slighted, hug her. IF she wants you to take them (your parents) to task do it. Right away. Don't let her to have to ask you for a week if you straightened the mess out. Talk to your parents as you see fit, respectfully, but stand up for your wife letting her know she can count on you. Do what you have to do to make your parents understand boundaries. Visa vera with hers. </p><p>6. If you family farm, and have not done so, you need to work with your parents on succession planning especially if other siblings are involved in farming or not. Nothing worse than having a wife worry about the future that pertains to you, her and the kids.</p><p></p><p>Lastly, priorities. It is so easy to get caught up in life, that you both forget your marriage. This means "DATE NIGHT"</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rockridgecattle, post: 637154, member: 6198"] 1. never go to bed angry with each other 2. listen and hear each other. 3. this may sound stupid, but agree on a $ amount that is okay for each other to spend without discussing it. Not including bills and groceries,... the extras. Hubby and i agreed on $75.00. In 15 1/2 years of marriage he went over the 75.00 only once, last christmas and bought himself a TV. Me i am a tightwad so $75 is hard to do. 4. The first two years will be tough in adjustments to each other even if you lived together before marriage. It's those idiosincrities that brought us together will now tear us apart kind of thing. As well, marriage proof your marriage cause it's a documented fact that year 5, 7,11, 13 are difficult years for some reason. 5. BIG ONE If you family farm, inlaws have their place and your place is with your bride, visa versa. Stand up for your wife right off the bat. Don't let it go. If she feels slighted, hug her. IF she wants you to take them (your parents) to task do it. Right away. Don't let her to have to ask you for a week if you straightened the mess out. Talk to your parents as you see fit, respectfully, but stand up for your wife letting her know she can count on you. Do what you have to do to make your parents understand boundaries. Visa vera with hers. 6. If you family farm, and have not done so, you need to work with your parents on succession planning especially if other siblings are involved in farming or not. Nothing worse than having a wife worry about the future that pertains to you, her and the kids. Lastly, priorities. It is so easy to get caught up in life, that you both forget your marriage. This means "DATE NIGHT" [/QUOTE]
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