Farmer Wants a Wife

[ClinchValley86]

Call me old fashioned but part of me sometimes wants to think that marriage should be about a man aligning forces with a trusted ally to consolidate power and destroy common enemies......

(That 'ally' works best if it's a 'she'.)

u n I both.

 

[ClinchValley86]

The right woman will let you have that fantasy and you'll thank your lucky stars without even knowing she knows how to handle you.

My girlfriend of 48 years doesn't want much... but she gets what she wants because she makes me appreciate everything she does for me. And brother... she's done a LOT.

She's only said NO to me twice, and one was when I suggested we could use another wife to help her out. (She's Mormon stock, but thank God she isn't one.)

I need to find me a Mormon sounds like. Hearing no is rough.

 

[StrojanHerefords]

My husband and I met on horseback in his hay field. We would go to cattle auctions and were friends for 36 years. 9 years ago he asked me to marry him. I thought never married cowboys always shy away from the double harness.

Horse girls are a big no for me. Not only are horses expensive but I don't want to deal with having to clean my wife's undercarriage after she breaks both her wrists falling off a horse.
I don't particularly want a wife that gets dirty. What I need is organization, someone to pay the bills and keep things in order.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

I must be lucky. It's not that difficult.

 

[SmokinM]

I would offer advice but sounds like you got it all figured out. Best of luck to you and the lucky gal whoever you may program her to be.

 

[jltrent]

ClinchValley, there is some good women in that Valley as that is where I found mine (same valley). It will be 40 years come June and she knows more about cattle than I.

 

[Dave]

Horse girls are a big no for me. Not only are horses expensive but I don't want to deal with having to clean my wife's undercarriage after she breaks both her wrists falling off a horse.
I don't particularly want a wife that gets dirty. What I need is organization, someone to pay the bills and keep things in order.

Me too. When I was looking through profiles on farmers only if a gal was talking about her horse I just quietly moved on. My wife was raised on and owned ranches where were used regularly. But horses were never life to her.

 

[chevytaHOE5674]

What I need is organization, someone to pay the bills and keep things in order.

Doesn't sound like you want a partner in life, sound like you need to hire a secretary/office manager....?

 

[AmandaQ]

If she don't want your broke a$$ then she won't want you financially comfortable either. I can say this because mine has stuck with me through thick and thin, with a lot more servings of the thin. Find one who'll take you now,as is.

Amen!

 

[wbvs58]

Horse girls are a big no for me. Not only are horses expensive but I don't want to deal with having to clean my wife's undercarriage after she breaks both her wrists falling off a horse.
I don't particularly want a wife that gets dirty. What I need is organization, someone to pay the bills and keep things in order.

I think you might be single for a bit.
I like the ones that get down and dirty.

Ken

 

[StrojanHerefords]

Hey, I am not as bad as old Tompall.

 

[Spot & Bubby]

Hey, I am not as bad as old Tompall.

Well, you've got that going for you, which is nice.

 

[Ned Jr.]

Take her hunting and see if she can be quiet for two hours. It will also show ya if she knows how to use a gun and knife. If she can stand the site of blood, if she loves animals to death etc......

My wife would always get the hiccups when I'd take her hunting. Not the quiet ones either.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

I was a horse woman all my life. Not 'that kind' but one who rode cross country long distance over the hills to be alone and get away from people. The soul mate of my life we met riding in his hay field in 1980. A loner cattleman who knew more about horse that I did. Been friends since 1980. Married in 2016. He comes out, watches and quietly tells me how to train the horse I have now.

 

[Spot & Bubby]

I was a horse woman all my life. Not 'that kind' but one who rode cross country long distance over the hills to be alone and get away from people. The soul mate of my life we met riding in his hay field in 1980. A loner cattleman who knew more about horse that I did. Been friends since 1980. Married in 2016. He comes out, watches and quietly tells me how to train the horse I have now.

That's pretty hot.

 

[greybeard]

Hey, I am not as bad as old Tompall.

Nope, not as bad .he's dead.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

It's still somewhat true. I don't want to wear the pants although dresses sure don't work well out in the country.

 

[Dave]

What that show looks like to me is a bunch of people who want to be on TV. None of the women look to have a clue what it would be like to live on a farm or ranch. Sort of reminds me of a bunch of buckle bunnies hanging around a rodeo. And at least what I have seen on the show looks nothing like a working farm or ranch. Of course they probably dress up the portion which is going to be in front of the camera.
The wife says that her son's first wife married him to live on the ranch. Then ranch life turned out to be nothing like she envisioned it to be. The isolation of living 2 hours drive from the nearest town. Long days working. etc Marriage didn't last very long.

 

[Ouachita]

EDIT- I was replying to Travlr's post at the bottom of Page two, but internet disconnected.


Yes. That could be among the most important advice for a couple considering marriage.
It's important to have common goals and interest, but also for both to have separate interest without the expectation that your spouse should share those interest. Each need to be able to entertain themselves apart from the other, and give each other the space to that.

My first wife was high maintenance, and jealous of any activity I did without her.
My second (and present) wife has her own social circles, interest, hobbies, etc, apart from mine, and she isn't the least bit hesitant to say "don't you have cows to check? (which is another way of her asking me to get out of her space for a while).

She's also very encouraging and supportive during difficult times. I broke my neck a month ago and got a helicopter ride to the hospital. They had slapped a neck brace on me, pumped me full of drugs, and when wife arrived at the hospital (two hour drive for her), the first thing she did was try to hide a laugh by covering her mouth. When I asked her why she was laughing, she told me that I looked like a chipmunk hiding in May Ruth's wig (I hadn't trimmed my beard all winter, and that neck brace was pushing my cheeks and beard upward. May Ruth is an elderly lady at church that has wigs for all occasions).

Get one that is witty and smart with a sense of humor; one that can take it and dish it and life will never be boring.

 

[CowboyRam]