Farmer Wants a Wife

[Ky hills]

I met my wife through eHarmony, her grandparents were ranchers, but she was raised in town with concrete for a yard,
She had helped her grandparents some, but it was still a learning experience for her on the farm day to day when we married. To her credit she was willing to learn and is tough as nails when it comes to tackling a job.
She's helped pull calves, treat sick calves, she'll work with a calf to get it to take a bottle etc. She wanted to and has learned to drive a truck with a cattle trailer and to drive a tractor.

 

[greybeard]

Call me old fashioned but part of me sometimes wants to think that marriage should be about a man aligning forces with a trusted ally to consolidate power and destroy common enemies......

(That 'ally' works best if it's a 'she'.)

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

My husband and I met on horseback in his hay field. We would go to cattle auctions and were friends for 36 years. 9 years ago he asked me to marry him. I thought never married cowboys always shy away from the double harness.

 

[FlyingLSimmentals]

Take her hunting and see if she can be quiet for two hours. It will also show ya if she knows how to use a gun and knife. If she can stand the site of blood, if she loves animals to death etc......

 

[chevytaHOE5674]

Take her hunting and see if she can be quiet for two hours. It will also show ya if she knows how to use a gun and knife. If she can stand the site of blood, if she loves animals to death etc......

My wife is a 50/50 partner in the cattle operation, she will do whatever needs to be done with cows.

But no way is she going to go hunting and shoot a wild animal. She would say "our freezer is full of beef"... ha

 

[crossbreed]

Been 38 years since we tied the knot! Both of us raised on dairy's but both left same as quickly as we could. We got back into cattle 8 years ago and while she does not volunteer when it gets into calving and such she jumps in and helps out with feeding, watering, running the tractor for moving hay or brush hogging. She's a hair stylist by trade so runs to the fashion statement side, but will still get her hands and boots dirty and come out at the end of the day somehow looking like she came in LOL. Main thing is she understands that when it's time to work you likely won't be home for supper on time. That's a valuable part of the relationship. Marriage is a hard job and requires work from both sides. The results are rewarding.

 

[TexasJerseyMilker]

I have learned when helping men who are working do not chatter away about this and that . My husband explains it like this "That's enough talking"

 

[StrojanHerefords]

Don't sell yourself short. Or you're looking at the wrong type of woman.

I am not selling my self short, I fully intend to marry up. No buckle bunnies or farm girl cosplayers for me. What I want is a driven career woman who comes to the realization that selling the best years of her life to a faceless corporate overlord isn't fulfilling. I have an inner Archie Bunker and I need to be the one wearing the pants and providing.

 

[shaz]

Play hard to get. Drives chick's nuts

I'm playing hard to want

 

[Travlr]

I am not selling my self short, I fully intend to marry up. No buckle bunnies or farm girl cosplayers for me. What I want is a driven career woman who comes to the realization that selling the best years of her life to a faceless corporate overlord isn't fulfilling. I have an inner Archie Bunker and I need to be the one wearing the pants and providing.

The right woman will let you have that fantasy and you'll thank your lucky stars without even knowing she knows how to handle you.

My girlfriend of 48 years doesn't want much... but she gets what she wants because she makes me appreciate everything she does for me. And brother... she's done a LOT.

She's only said NO to me twice, and one was when I suggested we could use another wife to help her out. (She's Mormon stock, but thank God she isn't one.)

 

[SmokinM]

I need to be the one wearing the pants and providing.

Like I told my Dad one time when he was giving me crap, you can wear them or you can get in them but you usually don't get it both ways

 

[MACVSOG]

No, it was not.
Just A problem I've experienced here at CT the last couple of days, whereupon submitting a reply, several of the exact same thing get posted one after another and I have to go back and delete the duplicates.
I figured it's just part of the 'new and improved' CT.

understood. 'new and improved' is a misnomer because it is usually neither.

 

[TCRanch]

I am not selling my self short, I fully intend to marry up. No buckle bunnies or farm girl cosplayers for me. What I want is a driven career woman who comes to the realization that selling the best years of her life to a faceless corporate overlord isn't fulfilling. I have an inner Archie Bunker and I need to be the one wearing the pants and providing.

Well, okay then!

Marry up? And what will you and this driven career woman have in common?

Mr TC and I have been together 32 years, married 23 (longest engagement ever). We met at work, in the career driven corporate overload world. The career, not the man, was faceless and unfulfilling. He was CEO & Pres of a company when he decided to sell, retire (at 54), and subsequently buy the ranch. And BTW, we were both "wearing the pants and providing". But we walked away from it all and dove in headfirst with a cow-calf operation. 20 years later, guess who's the one "wearing the pants" by doing 90% of all the physical work? But it's always been a partnership.

I wish you luck.

 

[Spot & Bubby]

Call me old fashioned but part of me sometimes wants to think that marriage should be about a man aligning forces with a trusted ally to consolidate power and destroy common enemies......

(That 'ally' works best if it's a 'she'.)

I would share that romantic ideal if it didn't require continuous inflow of enemies.

 

[dorite007]

14 years for my first , 4 months on my second , and 32 years on my last one , if i have to look for another i'm just gonna stay by my self with my dog's

 

[Dave]

Well, okay then!

Marry up? And what will you and this driven career woman have in common?
I wish you luck.

I have to agree with TC. I wish you luck. By the idea of finding a driven career woman who decided to walk away you have narrowed the field far beyond my idea of looking for a farm or ranch raised lady. I do agree with you on the buckle bunnies. Knew enough of them back in my rodeo days. Be careful about narrowing to field too much. You can walk by a lot of mighty good searching for perfect only to find perfect doesn't exist.

 

[Warren Allison]

There is an old saying:" I never knew the true meaning of happiness until I got married...but then it was too late!" Chill out...It's a joke!
I have always said that I am a fast learner, and there are 5 things I have done, and I will never do again. I have had 1 marriage, 1 divorce, jumped out of one airplane, rode 1 bull, and had 1 root canal. Got married 44 years ago. Got divorced 25 years ago. Jumped from a plane in 1976, rode a bull in 1984, had a root canal in 1993. I have been with my ole lady for 16 years. However I may break one of my rules in 2 years. She just turned 63 and when she turns 65 we are probably going to get married. Right now with the ACA rules, I would have to be on her group plan. But when she turns 65, she will be on Medicare, too, and it would be to our advantage to be married. Will also be an advantage tax wise.

Best advice I can give people who are single and want to find a partner..is to quit looking! Just let it happen if it happens. I met her when my house burned down in 2009, January. The insurance company put me up in a Holiday Inn, and I chose one in the town where my office was. There was a lounge there, and I'd go there to eat supper , have 2 beers, and listen to the live music. I met her there, and was instantly attracted to her. It was April 15th before we went on our first date. She ended up spending that night, and we have been together ever since. I had gotten out of my house through a window at 3 AM. Don't know what woke me up, but the house was fully engulfed. It was 16 degrees that night, and I came through the window naked with a pair of jeans in 1 hand, and a 44 mag in the other. I lost literally every thing I owned that night, including a vintage 1969 Fender sunburst Strat, 11 long guns and 5 other pistols, all pictures I had. videos from my kids growing up. Everything. But I have told her, I may have lost everything, but because of that fire I gained the best thing that ever happened to me, when I met her, and wouldn't change it even if I could. I get her two bouquets of flowers every week. One for the downstairs kitchen and one for the upstairs living room. She does tedious things for me, like cut my toenails, because my hands and fingers don't work good anymore. The pain in my wrists and ankles is so bad I can not sleep most nights, and she will rub them until I go to sleep.

 

[greybeard]

........ and 32 years on my last one , if i have to look for another i'm just gonna stay by my self with my dog's

About the same here.....

 

[Ky hills]

My first marriage if you could even call it that lasted about 13 months. I tried to do my part to make it work, but within about 4 months I knew I was the only one trying.
She was from a good family on both sides.
Problem was she was a former addict in word only that never gave up the addiction. She kept it hid and I didn't recognize the warning signs that it was there.
Her idea was to have a place to come "home" to whenever it suited her and to have another enabler that just kept her up and didn't ask questions. I could not and would not provide that for her and i ended the marriage. She was fine with that once she realized that her family would let her come back to live with sone of them.
I've been remarried for what will be 10 years in June of this year.
We have a real relationship, it's not always easy, You have to work at making it it work. When we first married I told her we have 72 years between us of life experiences prior to us being married.
You become a family unit, and not just 2 individuals with different agendas.
We work together.
I know somebody that has always had aspirations of being wealthy and he met a woman that he liked because she was hot and powerful as he described her.
They married and she used him to further her ambitions. He had a good job and had his house paid for. He helped her finance businesses and maintain a lavish lifestyle, She got what she wanted and left him for another man. She basically said he wasn't good enough for her,
Be very careful with agenda driven or just really driven people in general.
My advice is look for character instead of focusing on looks or ambition.
Ask yourself is she truly kind, does she really care about others or is it all about her?

 

[Travlr]

Well if this is getting into an advice thread... I guess I can put my take on it.

My wife and I practice constructive selfishness.

We prioritize our own happiness by defining what's important to us. I know my wife has to be happy or I'm going to have a miserable life. She does the same.