Farmer Wants a Wife

[StrojanHerefords]

I see that Farmer Wants a Wife is back on the air and that brings to mind thoughts of its about time to get ready to go hunting for a wife.
I am not yet at the stage of life where I can give my future wife the kind of life that she would like to be accustomed to but I want to start figuring out how to navigate the modern world of dating. The choice of who to marry is the most important decision in a persons life, particularly when you are farming and the end of a marriage could mean the end of the farm thoughts?

 

[BFE]

If she don't want your broke a$$ then she won't want you financially comfortable either. I can say this because mine has stuck with me through thick and thin, with a lot more servings of the thin. Find one who'll take you now,as is.

 

[SDgrampa]

Play hard to get. Drives chick's nuts

 

[CowboyRam]

At the moment I am enjoying my peace. Not sure I want another wife.

 

[greybeard]

It's 'Farmer wants a wife' not
'Farmer wants to buy a wife'
but some here say prenups should not be used
but....
if it's a case of 'Female farmer wants a husband'
then I bet it's a case of 'What's mine is mine and what's his is mine' and prenups will be used!!

 

[greybeard]

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[Philip-TX]

If she don't want your broke a$$ then she won't want you financially comfortable either. I can say this because mine has stuck with me through thick and thin, with a lot more servings of the thin. Find one who'll take you now,as is.

Mine is stuck with me ......"fat and tall"

 

[Dave]

The wife and I met on farmers only. Just make sure that you find an actual farm or ranch raised lady.

 

[TCRanch]

I am not yet at the stage of life where I can give my future wife the kind of life that she would like to be accustomed to

Don't sell yourself short. Or you're looking at the wrong type of woman.

 

[MACVSOG]

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this was probably good. sorry i missed it and will always wonder what it was.

 

[greybeard]

this was probably good. sorry i missed it and will always wonder what it was.

No, it was not.
Just A problem I've experienced here at CT the last couple of days, whereupon submitting a reply, several of the exact same thing get posted one after another and I have to go back and delete the duplicates.
I figured it's just part of the 'new and improved' CT.

 

[Travlr]

The wife and I met on farmers only. Just make sure that you find an actual farm or ranch raised lady.

Mine is a city girl, born and bred... And she's put up with everything except working cattle. They terrify her if she has to be between them and where they want to go.

One of my fondest memories was of her face when she came in the door of the barn to tell me she couldn't find the calf puller, and my arm was up to my shoulder in a cow to pull the front legs forward.

Stop
Mouth opened, and eyes almost as big
Spun around and exited faster than she came in.

But she's not squeamish if you give her some warning. I'd do it again in a heart-beat.

 

[ClinchValley86]

I'm 38 and soon will be doing the same. My lady of 18 years and I are going seperate ways. We been roommates for a long time now.

I honestly dread it... the hunt I mean. 99% of them seem crazy now. I'm just looking for a team player... that likes cows.

 

[greybeard]

My lady of 18 years and I are going seperate ways. We been roommates for a long time now.

I'm sorry to hear this. 18 summers and winters is a long time.
Good luck for the future..if you're lucky tho, not much hunting involved, 'she'll' find you.

 

[ClinchValley86]

I'm sorry to hear this. 18 summers and winters is a long time.
Good luck for the future..if you're lucky tho, not much hunting involved, 'she'll' find you.

I like the positivity!!!!

Truth be told, I should done it many summer and winters ago. Sometimes patience can be a fault I'm learning. Maybe it's just me honing the ol' procrastination skills.

It can only get better from here.

 

[Pnw Farmer]

Farmers Only for the wife and I. Prenup to cover everything before we got married and anything that dad and I's partnership purchases and any family ground on either side is off limits. Told her it was non-negotiable from the start. Other than that it's fair game. I told her about 6 months in that the farm comes first, plain and simple. In that I mean it's my livelihood, what I've been putting time into long before I knew her and should I need to spray on her birthday then she'll get a card when I get home. Most of the time it doesn't come to that but I wanted it known. She didn't like it at the time but after being a farmer's wife for the better part of a decade I think she understands where I'm coming from. Sometimes starting at zero and building it with someone is a better life lesson than waiting until you feel you've already built it then they join. There's a mutual respect knowing you started with the same roots. If I'd waited until I thought I was in a solid position then I'd still be a bachelor, if they'll love you broke then you know they're not in it for anything else.

We were fighting one time and my dog came over for some scratches so I accommodated her, my wife looked at me and said, "Sometimes I swear you love that dog more than me." To which I replied a little too hastily, "Well, I have known the dog longer." That was a lovely evening.

 

[CowboyRam]

I like the positivity!!!!

Truth be told, I should done it many summer and winters ago. Sometimes patience can be a fault I'm learning. Maybe it's just me honing in my procrastination skills.

It can only get better from here.

I made 17 years, and like you stayed in the relationship way to long. I stayed because of my son. It sure is nice not to have to feel like you are walking on eggshells.

 

[Spot & Bubby]

I am not yet at the stage of life where I can give my future wife the kind of life that she would like to be accustomed to

FIRST: If you don't know who she is, you don't know what she'd like to be accustomed to... Unless "high maintenance" is the type you're after. That's not the type who will be keen on farmer/rancher business hours or vacation availability. Probably won't like dust, dirt, blood, snot, poop, grease, or sweat, either.

SECOND: There's a lot to be said for building your world together instead of bringing someone into an establishment. The most romantic thing I can imagine in life is two people each bringing their ideas to together to form a shared vision they'll each gladly shed blood, sweat and tears to achieve together.

 

[SBMF 2015]

The wife and I met on farmers only. Just make sure that you find an actual farm or ranch raised lady.

Mrs and I did too!
Farmers Only is a great tool, but it's like dating anywhere you only get out of it what you put in.

 

[Dave]

I put on my profile that "if she didn't know which end of a cow stood up first, she probably wouldn't understand me". She still jokes about that occasionally. She generally doesn't help work cows anymore but she will and can if needed. Not prefect but neither am I. She is a worker. And grew up with nothing. Frugal doesn't begin to describe her.
Found the first wife at the bar. Should have left her there. Truth and honesty just weren't in her. I made it last 10 years. Should have lasted 10 minutes.